“My husband wants to have a threesome with me and one of my friends, and I think I may be open to it, but I also want to have a threesome…with two guys. He could be involved, or he could watch. I think that’s an even trade. How do I bring that up?”   – Mindi,32

Real Guy Says:

Threesomes are extremely tricky, and have been known to kill relationships. There’s a myriad of reasons:

• You do it for your husband, but then he backs out of the deal.
• One of you discovers you’re really into it, but the other isn’t. What then?
• Jealousy can weave its way into the relationship, without warning.

Here’s the deal. It takes a very strong couple to survive sex outside the marriage. But if you’re hell-bent to do this, I highly recommend not using your friend. Better to use someone who’s a stranger, just so if it does cause some jealousy, you don’t ruin a friendship along with your marriage. As for how to bring up having your own threesome, next time he asks you, reply with, “And what do I get in return”? He’ll probably ask what you want, and that’s when you suggest your reward. Many times a guy is just testing his partner’s “lesbian-meter”, but backs off once he pictures you making it with two men, especially if he’s an insecure type.