jessica drake Garners XRCO Nomination for Mainstream Adult Media Favorite

Sex Educator’s Efforts Receive Critical Recognition for Public Outreach & Mainstream Media Appeal!

FEBRUARY 28, 2014 – LOS ANGELES, CAjessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex director, producer, and host jessica drake receives industry praise with a nomination for Mainstream Adult Media Favorite for the 2014 XRCO Awards. drake’s work as a sex educator and industry spokesperson have placed her prominently in the public eye, garnering prodigious media attention.

“I’m honored to receive an XRCO Award nomination – it’s a joint effort, and I’m grateful for everyone who supports me and all the members of Team Wicked,” says jessica. “The Guide To Wicked Sex line has allowed me to reach out to the public in the most amazing way. From speaking with singles and couples about sexuality, to chatting with students at universities about consent, politics, pornography, relationships, and sex, being able to share my passion for sex education has been extremely rewarding.”

jessica continues, “The additional outreach to the mainstream public through events, such as participating in, raising funds, and building awareness through AIDS Walk LA, has allowed me to push boundaries beyond the scope of the stereotypes surrounding our industry. I’m thrilled to have these opportunities to bridge the space between the adult industry and the public, and I thank the XRCO for recognizing the mainstream media’s acceptance of those efforts.”

A CNN.com photo essay on jessica drake was declared “most popular photo blog of 2013” by the prominent news outlet. In the photo blog, drake discusses LA County’s controversial Measure B (also known as the County of Los Angeles Safer Sex In the Adult Film Industry Act), the adult industry, and her performance, educational, and volunteer work; the feature also takes a peek into her private life.

The past year brought jessica drake to the forefront of mainstream media, with appearances at college campuses: University of Chicago’s Sex Week invited her to speak on a panel on modern sex education and porn piracy; Chapman University asked her to appear as a guest lecturer for its Human Sexuality class. She has also spoken with Film and Media Studies students at the University of California – Santa Barbara, and participated in a panel on pornography at UCLA. In addition, she has spoken at numerous stores across the country on topics covered in Guide To Wicked Sex.

Chapman University Assistant Professor David Frederick, Ph.D., described drake as “an exceptional speaker… I would highly recommend her as a speaker for any class related to media issues, gender, or sexuality.” “jessica drake is a wickedly compelling and articulate sex educator, who is also smart, funny, and compassionate,” added Dr. Constance Penley; Professor of Film and Media Studies and Co-Director of the Carsey-Wolf Center, UC Santa Barbara. Fellow professor Dr. MIreille Miller-Young echoed Dr. Penley’s sentiment, saying, “jessica drake is a powerful voice for sexual education and empowerment! Using adult entertainment as a tool for social change… jessica has a vital voice, and she isn’t afraid to use it to help us all embrace our sexualities and fight social stigma and oppression.”

In 2013, drake also led fellow adult stars, industry members, and fans under the TEAM WICKED banner, to complete a 10 kilometer fundraising walk through West Hollywood, CA at the 29th Annual AIDS Walk Los Angeles. The team raised over $20,000 for LA County AIDS Organizations. She was also instrumental in the creation of a Porn 101 video for the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee, an introductory film for performers entering the industry covering topics such as health, safety, employment, and more.

“This really has been an exceptional year in terms of the adult industry’s presence in mainstream media, and its interaction with the public,” adds jessica. “The way our industry has been portrayed in the public eye has started to change, though we still have a long way to go. I feel the increased inquiry into pornography, sex education, and open communication between the adult industry and the public has started to breed an environment of understanding, if not acceptance, and I hope that my participation in those conversations has netted a positive response in that regard.”

Through her series of workshops and seminars and her line of instructional DVDs, jessica drake teaches people to explore their sexuality in a fun, safe, and responsible way. She teaches how to set boundaries, emphasize consent, and still have wonderful sex while communicating effectively with partners.

The Huffington Post says of her Guide to Wicked Sex series, “Watching her DVDs [is] fun, informative, and sexy all at once…Covering fellatio, anal sex, female masturbation, anal play for men and threesomes, drake uses real couples and porn stars to simulate scenes, as well as hard core sex scenes at the finale, to illustrate the point.”

The X Rated Critics Organization honors the best in the adult entertainment industry; its awards show is the second oldest in the business. The 30th Annual XRCO Awards Show will be held April 16 at OHM (formerly Highlands Hollywood), in Hollywood, California. Admission to the XRCO Awards is free; however, attendance is restricted to adult industry personnel and press only. Attendees must RSVP to be put on the list here.

Wicked Pictures is an official sponsor of the 2014 XRCO Awards.

About jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex:
Three-time AVN Best Actress winner and sexual wellness authority jessica drake brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today’s hottest adult stars in her “Guide to Wicked Sex” series. The stimulating sequences are sensual, provocative and enlivened by an informative optional audio commentary. In each volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” writer, producer, director, and host jessica drake addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. jessica explores each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor, which led Dee Dennis, the founder of sexuality conference CatalystCon, to praise her as “an amazing sex educator and speaker, who represents a new direction and is breaking new ground” in the sexual self-help genre. The series’ volume on Fellatio earned AVN’s 2012 Best Educational Release trophy, “Anal” was named XBIZ’s 2012 Specialty Release of the Year, “Anal Sex for Men” received AVN’s 2014 Best Educational Release award. For more information, visit www.GuideToWickedSex.com or www.Twitter.com/Guide2WickedSex.

About XRCO:
Founded in 1984, the XRCO was formed to give writers and editors from the adult entertainment industry a voice in selecting the best in and brightest in the world of adult cinema. Original members included a small group of writers from Los Angeles, New York, and Philadelphia. Over the years, select and qualified membership has expanded to include some of the best adult reviewers from both print and the Internet. In 2005, the XRCO welcomed its first European members. 2009 marked a quarter century of excellence with the XRCO’s Silver Anniversary. For more information about the XRCO, visit www.XRCO.com.

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jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal Play for Men Named 2014 AVN Awards’ Best Educational Release

Modern Sex Educator’s DVD on Male Anal & Prostate Play Garners Industry’s Highest Honor!

JANUARY 22, 2014 – LOS ANGELES, CA — The acclaimed educational series jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex continues to garner industry praise, as jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal Play for Men was named Best Educational Release at this year’s 2014 AVN Awards.

jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex is written and directed by Wicked Pictures contract star jessica drake, who also received an AVN Award for Best Safe Sex Scene this year, for her performance with Brad Armstrong in Sexpionage: The Drake Chronicles (Wicked Pictures).

Held at The Joint in Hard Rock Hotel & Casino in Las Vegas this past Saturday night, the AVN Awards annually celebrates the best of the best in the adult entertainment, sexual education and health, and novelty industries.

“I’m humbled and honored to have jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal Play for Men receive an AVN award,” says jessica. “When I first started doing my anal sex seminars, both women AND men were approaching me with questions about prostate play and anal toys for men, who want to further explore their sexuality. I made Anal Play for Men in direct response to all of their questions, and I knew it would be very well received. I’m hoping it also assists in further breaking down societal taboos around the topic.”

jessica adds, “As the line continues to grow with feedback from couples, retailers, and reviewers, I am constantly driven to improve each new volume. I’m looking forward to expanding the series even more in 2014 with new topics and inspiring collaborations. I’m so very grateful to Wicked for supporting me, and I sincerely thank everyone at AVN for selecting jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal Play for Men as Best Educational Release this year.”

In 2012, jessica drake’s Guide To Wicked Sex: Fellatio received AVN’s Best Educational Release award; the release on Anal Sex received the 2012 XBIZ Award for Specialty Release of the Year. The educational series continues to receive ongoing positive support and acclaim from both adult industry and mainstream media.

The Huffington Post says of the series, “Watching her DVDs [is] fun, informative, and sexy all at once…Covering fellatio, anal sex, female masturbation, anal play for men and threesomes, drake uses real couples and porn stars to simulate scenes, as well as hard core sex scenes at the finale, to illustrate the point.” Senior Erotic Consultant Gram Ponante of Fleshbot.com calls drake’s work “Sexy but professional, [dropping] a great deal of science without appearing-as some sex-ed presenters do – like it’s a lecture … she is also savvy enough to not distract her audience by stealing the show.”

Adult industry reviewers agree; XCritic says of jessica drake’s Guide To Wicked Sex, “The down-to-earth dialogue and instructions create a very comfortable atmosphere for the viewer to watch and digest the information… The sexual display(s) by the performers during the instructional portion of this film are important factors in creating this more intimate mood. Overall, it’s the best … instructional film that I have ever seen.” Art Koch, National Features & DVD Editor for NightMoves Magazine, echoes the support, saying, “The interviews are candid, open, very honest and also very helpful in understanding about pleasure zones, the whys and wherefores … The scenes are well done, sensual, sexual and not rushed but done in a manner that any man or woman can learn from and enjoy. This is an exceptional series that can enhance your sexual life and lead you into new areas of pleasure you didn’t think possible.”

A fervent educator on sexual health and wellness, drake is a highly sought-after sexual wellness speaker who lectures at universities, teaches seminars, and runs workshops globally. Through her series of workshops and seminars and her line of instructional DVDs, jessica teaches people to explore their sexuality in a fun, safe, and responsible way. She teaches how to set boundaries, emphasize consent, and still have wonderful sex while communicating effectively with partners.

For more information about jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex titles, appearances and sex education seminar series, visit http://www.guidetowickedsex.com.

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About jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex:
Three-time AVN Best Actress winner and sexual wellness authority jessica drake brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today’s hottest adult stars in her “Guide to Wicked Sex” series. The stimulating sequences are sensual, provocative and enlivened by an informative optional audio commentary. In each volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” writer, producer, director, and host jessica drake addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. jessica explores each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor, which led Dee Dennis, the founder of sexuality conference CatalystCon, to praise her as “an amazing sex educator and speaker, who represents a new direction and is breaking new ground” in the sexual self-help genre. The series’ volume on Fellatio earned AVN’s 2012 Best Educational Release trophy, “Anal” was named XBIZ’s 2012 Specialty Release of the Year, “Anal Sex for Men” received AVN’s 2014 Best Educational Release award. For more information, visit www.GuideToWickedSex.com or www.Twitter.com/Guide2WickedSex.

About Wicked Pictures:
Founded March 1, 1993, acclaimed adult industry powerhouse Wicked Pictures creates quality adult features for women and couples. Wicked Pictures’ elite team of contract talent includes actor-writer-director Brad Armstrong, writer-director Jonathan Morgan, writer-director-stars Stormy Daniels and jessica drake, and such acclaimed actresses as Kaylani Lei, Asa Akira, and Samantha Saint. AVN’s coveted acting awards were received by Wicked Girls for 9 consecutive years; it is the longest record of its kind to be held by a single company in adult video history. For more information, visit www.Wicked.com.

About the AVN Awards:
Over the years, the AVN Awards have become a famous staple in Las Vegas, while being housed in almost every major hotel on the strip. Starting in 1984, the show has grown drastically over the years and is now broadcast each year on cable to millions of viewers. The show allows adult and mainstream celebrities to come together once a year to celebrate the achievements of one of the world’s most profitable industries. In 2012, the AVN Awards took up residence in The Joint at the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino and returned for a third straight year in 2014. For more information, visit www.AVNAwards.com, www.Facebook.com/TheAVNAwards, or www.Twitter.com/AVNAwards.

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‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex’ Receives 2 Nominations for 2014 XBIZ Awards

Sex Educator’s ‘Anal Play for Men’ & ‘Woman to Woman’ Instructional Videos Earn Recognition for ‘Specialty Release’ Award!

NOVEMBER 26, 2012 — LOS ANGELES, CA — Two titles from acclaimed educational series jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex receive Specialty Release of the Year nominations for the 2014 XBIZ Awards. Sexual wellness authority jessica drake wrote, directed, and hosted jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal Play for Men and jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Woman to Woman, which are recognized by XBIZ for promoting healthy sexuality.

 

The 2014 XBIZ Awards will be held at the Century Plaza Hotel in Los Angeles, California on Friday, January 24.

 

“I’m so honored that XBIZ recognized my Guide to Wicked Sex series with multiple nominations again this year,” says Wicked Pictures contract performer jessica drake. “Both titles came about after getting feedback from my seminars and radio show. When doing my Anal Sex seminars, I have both women AND men approaching me to ask about prostate play and anal toys for men who are curious, and it made me appreciate that there are many couples eager to try it. Anal Play for Men is a direct response to every one of those questions, and I also hope it’s helpful in breaking down the societal taboos around the topic.”

 

jessica continues, “Woman to Woman is special to me because I WAS that girl once upon a time. I was attracted to a woman, but I had no idea how to act on my desire. I created this one as a resource for curious women of all types who want to explore a same-sex adventure, and my cast of women who love women could NOT have been better. We captured some of the most authentic chemistry on camera I’ve ever seen. I’m so happy that everyone loves it as much as I do.”

 

“Being recognized by the industry for my work in sex-positive outreach is extremely humbling,” adds jessica. “Thank you so much, XBIZ, for these nominations, and as always, I’m grateful to Wicked for the support, encouragement, and the opportunity to create this line.”

 

Wicked Pictures owner Steve Orenstein states, “I’m very happy to see jessica’s educational titles continue to garner nominations and win awards. As a sex-positive and couples-centric product, jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex is a very important line for Wicked, and the orders and reorders for her titles are a testament to its popularity and accessibility to the public. We’re thrilled to support jessica’s efforts to continue to educate couples on how to have safe, exciting sex through this line, and are extremely proud of her nominations under our brand.”

 

The series’ popular volume jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal earned the 2012 XBIZ Award for Specialty Release of the Year.

 

Each volume of jessica drake’s Guide To Wicked Sex showcases a different aspect of human sexuality as jessica touches on subjects ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. She explores each one with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience and good humor that has led Gawker Media’s Fleshbot to laud her for bringing a “sexy, articulate and professional” new voice to the sexual self-help genre.

 

The 2013 XBIZ Awards will take place Friday, January 24, 2014 at the Century Plaza in Los Angeles. For more information about the 2014 XBIZ Awards, visit http://xbizawards.xbiz.com.

Understanding a Woman’s Orgasm

I think one of the biggest lessons to “understanding” a woman’s orgasm – whether you’re a woman and it’s yours or it’s that of your wife, girlfriend, casual fling, or one night stand – is it is something nearly impossible to truly understand. I can instruct you on how to bake the perfect cake, do a PowerPoint presentation, or drive a stick shift, but what I cannot do is give you step by step instructions on how to give your partner (or yourself, for that matter) an orgasm. Because we’re all so very different, both in anatomy and also in personal preferences, what gets one woman off simply may not work for another.

A Sex in America survey found that during intercourse, 3/4 of men reach orgasm, but only 1/3 of all women!  Other studies and surveys have found approximately 80% of the women who are orgasming are doing it from clitoral stimulation alone. Regardless of the type of orgasm, whether it’s clitoral, vaginal, g-spot, or a combination of, it’s my goal to help raise this percentage.

For men, I have three tips to offer.

1. Be confident, but not cocky. This applies to most things in life, but especially in the sexual prowess department. Your confidence she’s going to reach climax will encourage her.

2. Be persistent. There are four phases of the sexual response cycle, as explored by Masters and Johnson. The first one, excitement, encompasses foreplay. Make sure you’re doing what it takes, for as long as it takes. I have met many women who are unable to reach orgasm with their partner because they’re worried about taking too long. If your neck/mouth/fingers get tired, always have a backup plan. Switch things up… but don’t give up.

3. Be a good listener. This goes beyond the words coming out of her mouth. When you are doing something she loves, she’ll tell you… if not with her words, with her body. You’ll be able to pick up on her preferences – does she like it hard and fast? Slow and soft? More pressure or less? The answers are already there for you to find. Listen to her breathing. Watch as her toes curl. Is she pulling you in or pushing you away? Take that hint! Oh, and when she says breathlessly, ” don’t stop!”, whatever you do, DON’T STOP.

For women, I have days worth of advice, but I’ll begin with these three tips.

1. Get to know yourself. Your body is amazing. It’s unique. We don’t come with instruction manuals, so it’s up to you to do the groundwork necessary to really explore who you are sexually and what you like. Masturbate. Try things for the first time when you’re alone to alleviate any concerns you might have. When you’re comfortable, you can share them with your partner.

2. Have faith. It’s taking too long? Probably not. Women vary between the very quick 5 minutes to a leisurely half an hour… maybe more. Give yourself permission to do what you need, for as long as you need. Once you orgasm for the first time, you learn you can do it, and after that, you’ll find orgasms come easily. It’s like taking the training wheels off your bike once you get the hang of it. It’s also like the Law of Attraction… for orgasms!

3. Communicate. After you’ve experimented with what gets you in the mood, find a way to share this information with your partner. There are plenty of ways to do this – from a discussion during a dinner date to dirty talk during the act, and everything in between. Feeling adventurous? Plan a night of mutual masturbation where sex with your partner isn’t allowed. Watch each other and notice how you touch yourselves.

These hints are just the tip of the iceberg, but you’ll find in time and with practice, you’ll be on your way to understanding orgasms, and in turn, having many, many more of them.

For help of exploring your body and masturbation, try “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex Female Masturbation.”

xo,
jd

‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex’ Gets High Grades with 4 AVN Awards Nominations

‘Female Masturbation,’ ‘G-Spot,’ & ‘Threesomes’ Earn Educational-Release Nods

DECEMBER 17, 2012 — CANOGA PARK, Calif — The acclaimed educational series “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” is nominated for four 2013 AVN Awards with “Female Masturbation,” “The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation,” and “Threesomes — Every Man’s Fantasy” all nominated for Best Educational Release. The series is written and directed by Wicked Pictures contract star jessica drake, who is up for Director of the Year (Body of Work).

“I am SO excited about my ‘Guide to Wicked Sex Series’ being nominated for the AVN Awards,’ says jessica drake. “In its second year of existence, to be nominated once again amongst some truly gifted visionaries feels like such an accomplishment. This is also my first year to be recognized as a contender for Best Director Body of Work based on my instructional movies alone. I sincerely thank AVN for the honor, and I thank Wicked for always encouraging me to push myself a little further.”

“The ‘Guide to Wicked Sex’ is a very important line to the company,” Wicked Pictures owner Steve Orenstein states. “It represents our commitment to responsible sexuality. We’re proud jessica created it, and equally as proud to have her represent us with it.”

A fervent educator on sexual health and wellness, jessica drake writes, produces, and directs the video series “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex.” The series continues to receive excellent reviews from adult industry authorities, while “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Fellatio” received the 2012 AVN award for Best Educational Release.

In addition to creating this exclusive line of educational DVDs, jessica assists men and women in becoming more sexually aware with Sex for the Wicked Woman, a series of powerful and engaging self-help seminars illuminated by her vast expertise and passion for research.

drake’s speaking seminar experience includes sexuality conference CatalystCon. Event organizer Dee Dennis expresses her congratulations for drake: “I think jessica represents a new direction by bringing together both the porn industry and sex education with ‘Guide to Wicked Sex.’ I’m thrilled to see the industry recognize it with these nominations.”

The AVN Awards will be held January 19, 2013 at The Joint inside the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino in Las Vegas. For more information, visit AVNAwards.com.

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‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex’ Honored with 2 XBIZ Awards Nominations

Series Earns ‘Specialty Release,’ ‘Marketing Campaign’ Accolades!

NOVEMBER 19, 2012 — LOS ANGELES, CA — The acclaimed educational series “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” is nominated for two 2013 XBIZ Awards: Marketing Campaign of the Year and Specialty Release of the Year for “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Positions (Basic).” The series is written and directed by Wicked Pictures contract performer jessica drake.

“I’m so happy my ‘Guide to Wicked Sex’ series has once again been honored with nominations from Xbiz this year,” says jessica drake. “The line means so much to me, and I really appreciate the recognition. Very special thanks to Xbiz, and as always, I’m grateful to Wicked for the support and encouragement!”

Wicked Pictures owner Steve Orenstein states, “I’m glad to see the series receive continued recognition. It is a very important line to the company. We’re proud to have had jessica create it and have her represent us in and with it.”

The series’ popular volume “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal” earned the 2012 XBIZ Award for Specialty Release of the Year.

A fervent educator on sexual health and wellness, jessica drake writes, produces, and directs the video series “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex.” The series received excellent reviews from adult industry authorities including XBIZ, AVN and Fleshbot.com. The production “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Fellatio” received the 2012 AVN award for Best Educational Release.

In addition to creating this exclusive line of educational DVDs, jessica assists men and women in becoming more sexually aware with Sex for the Wicked Woman, a series of powerful and engaging self-help seminars illuminated by her vast expertise and passion for research.

The 2013 XBIZ Awards will take place January 11, 2013 at the Hyatt Regency Century Plaza in Los Angeles. For more information about the 2013 XBIZ Awards, visit www.XBIZAwards.com.

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Dear jessica: Help! My Girlfriend Never Masturbates!

Hi, jessica!!! My girlfriend never masturbates.  How can I convince her it’s natural?

–Tommy; Chattanooga, TN

 

Tommy, even though your girlfriend tells you she doesn’t masturbate, she very well could be indulging in some self-love.  Some people are shy about such things, and masturbation is a very intimate, personal action.  She may prefer keeping it on the DL.

 

Respect your girlfriend’s sexual preferences.  If you’ve tried to take her to adult movie stores or give her toys to play with and she’s not interested, then it’s on you to accept this aspect of her sexual identity or re-examine the relationship.

 

That being said, if you truly feel like she may be sexually open-minded, suggest using a vibrator on her during sex.  Make sure you purchase a discreet, cute toy, like a small clitoral stimulator or a thin, stylish rocket.  Stay away from a giant, rubber dildo for her first time.  Once you use it together, she may feel more comfortable pulling it out of the drawer on occasion when you’re not home.

 

Of course, you can always give her a copy of jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Female Masturbation as well.

 

xoxo

jd

Speaking at CatalystCon

I sat in my chair listening to the introductions, one by one: Carol Queen. Dr. Robert Lawrence. Ava Mir-Ausziehen, Sex Nerd Sandra Daugherty. They are some very prolific names in the field of Sex Education – authors, doctors, pioneers…and me.

 

I was introduced by Carol Queen, no less, as a Sex Educator on a panel entitled “Sex Education: Out of the Classroom, Into the Streets.”

 

This weekend I had the privilege of attending CatalystCon (www.CatalystCon.com), a sex-positive conference in Long Beach. An event created and organized by Dee Dennis, of deedennis.com, it is described as a “safe, non-judgmental space where we can all come together and expand both our knowledge and understanding of the issues that influence sexuality today,” but for me, it was so much more.

 

The first night of the conference opened with a very unique “Social Lubrication” hosted by Reid Mihalko that had everyone up out of their seats, running around the room spouting random sex facts to total strangers. That gave way to “Sex Rules” with Maria Falzone, who warmed us up with her hysterical humor, only to leave us deep in thought with a very powerful message. The evening culminated with the Opening Keynote Plenary featuring Dr. Marty Klein (who was kind enough not to notice me trembling as I shook his hand), Megan Andelloux, Maggie Mayhem, and Francisco Ramirez. They spoke on Sparking Communication in Sexuality, Activism, and Acceptance, and by the time they were done, everyone in the room was radiating their excitement.

 

In just three short days, I met some amazing people from many different walks of Sex Ed. People whose books I have read, names I have heard, and classes I have attended. People I had only dreamed of meeting were all under one roof! Not only did I get to speak on a panel, I also got to sit in on as many as I could, and I really wish I could have cloned myself to attend a few more.

 

I attended “Media Risks: Who Wins?”, Feminist Perspectives on “50 Shades of Grey,” “Teaching Porn, How to be an Ally to Sex Workers,” “A New Monogamy,” “Fat Sex Works,” “Women in the Industry,” and “A Conversation with Anti-Establishment Sex Workers.” My brain was tingling with all of this stimulation. It was three straight days of BRAIN SEX.

 

On Saturday night, we were also treated to the premiere of a documentary called “How to Lose Your Virginity” by Therese Shechter followed by either Dirty Bingo or Bawdy Storytelling. I chose the latter, and was treated to a host of ridiculously entertaining stories by some of the speakers, and though it was very close, I dare say that Megan Andelloux took the cake with her “Pennies” story. I would give you the juicy details, but my words would never suffice. Couple that with the fact I laughed so hard I almost fell out of my chair, and it would be tough for you to get the full effect. Trust me, it was brilliant.

 

Speaking on my panel was amazing. To have people listening to me, valuing what i had to say – both because AND despite who I am, was a great experience for me as a Sex Educator. Perhaps I’ll expand on that in another blog, but for now I am simply grateful to have had the experience of CatalystCon, and would love to thank all of the attendees, Wicked Pictures, Wicked Sensual, Adella from Fine Ass Marketing, and most of all, Dee Dennis. I can’t wait for CatalystCon East.

 

jd

Dear jessica: Are There Tricks to 1st Time Anal Sex?

jessica, I’m sure you get this question a lot: My husband and I want to try anal sex. What are the best ways to physically prepare for it?  I think I’m good on the mental side.

–Karen; Los Angeles, CA

 

Karen, kudos to you and your husband for being adventurous.  There are steps you can try weeks ahead of time and preparation steps right before the act, if you feel like being spontaneous.

 

If you have some room for planning, a popular way of preparing for anal sex is changing your diet a bit.  Consume less fatty foods and eat small meals.  Keep in mind it usually takes 24 – 72 hours for most food to pass through your body.  It takes 6 – 8 hours for food to pass through your stomach and small intestine, and then at least 24 hours to pass through the large intestine.

 

If you’re planning on light anal stimulation with no penetration, then concentrate on washing the area very thoroughly with a mild soap and water.  Skip the fancy soaps to avoid irritation.  Also, as you’re having a shower, or a bath, if you kneel down into a squat and spread your legs, it will make shaving that little area so much easier, and you’ll be smooth and sweet-smelling!

 

For full anal sex, you may consider doing an enema before the act.  An enema is the process of cleaning the rectum with a bulb syringe or an enema bottle.  It’s important to use a regular water enema (lukewarm or slightly warm), but not one that acts as a laxative.  If you’ve never used an enema before, try a practice run before you do one for anal sex.  Once you have it down, you can do an enema 2-3 hours before sex.

 

Now you’re ready!  Relax, go slow, and enjoy.  For more information, check out jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal.

 

xoxo,

jd

jessica drake Joins Sex-Ed Panel at CatalystCon

Producer of Acclaimed ‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex’ DVD Series Discusses ‘Sex Education: Out of the Classroom, Into the Streets!’

AUGUST 9, 2012 — LONG BEACH, CA — Emerging sexual wellness authority and adult entertainment superstar jessica drake will participate in a panel titled “Sex Education: Out of the Classroom, into the Streets!at the CatalystCon sexuality conference in September. In addition to jessica drake, panel participants include sex educators Carol Queen and Dr. Robert Morgan Lawrence, podcast host and “Sex Nerd” Sandra Daugherty and sssh.com‘s resident sex expert Ava Mir-Ausziehen.

In its inaugural year, CatalystCon was conceived from the hugely successful East Coast sexuality conference Momentum. Over 50 leading experts in sexuality and feminism attended Momentum, making it one of the most influential events on the subjects in the world. CatalystCon promises to be equally prolific, while inspiring exceptional conversations on sexuality and improving future discourse.

“I’m looking forward to this,” drake said. “So many people get their sex information — or should I say misinformation — from mainstream media and online entertainment, so a discussion of disseminating sex facts would be helpful to people who want to teach healthy, positive sexuality”

“I’m thrilled to be able to have jessica drake as a speaker at CatalystCon and especially as part of the sex educators panel Out of the Classroom,” CatalystCon organizer Dee Dennis said. “Many of us fight for sex education in our schools but I also think sex education for adults is just as important. There are many different ways to do that, as shown by the panel jessica is on. She has an established fan base that makes it possible to reach people others may not. One of the major messages of CatalystCon is knowledge is power and I feel that jessica is fulfilling that message with her series of sex-ed videos.”

The CatalystCon conference was created to inspire “exceptional conversations about sexuality” and will feature more than 40 panel discussions on various sexuality-based topics. The conference is described by organizer Dee Dennis as a “melting pot of sexuality” that will unite sex educators, sexologists, sex workers, writers, activists, and anyone with a passion for creating change. “Knowledge is power, and sharing that knowledge is the first spark in igniting change” is the principle behind CatalystCon.

Uniting a lifetime of study with a decade’s worth of experiential research, “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” is receiving excellent reviews from adult industry authorities including XBIZ, AVN and Fleshbot.com The production “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Fellatio” received the 2012 AVN award for Best Educational Release and “jessica drake’s Guide Wicked Sex: Anal’ received the 2012 XBIZ award for Specialty Release of the Year.

Continuing her commitment to sexuality education, drake writes a monthly column for AdultDVDEmpire.com titled Ask jessica drake Anything.” Each month jessica answers ten questions on love, sex, and romance. The authors of the questions receive complete sets of the “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” educational DVD series. To submit questions, visit http://www.adultdvdempire.com/pm/ask_jessica_drake.aspx.

CatalystCon will take place September 14-16 at the Hilton Long Beach & Executive Meeting Center in Long Beach, California. Registration is required. For more information, visit CatalystCon.com. The “Sex Education: Out of the Classroom, into the Streets!” panel with jessica drake participating is scheduled for 10:30 am on Saturday, September 15.

About CatalystCon:

CatalystCon is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one of the most important aspects of humanity. Dee Dennis regards this conference as a “melting pot of sexuality” that will unite sex educators, sexologists, sex workers, writers, activists, and anyone with a passion for creating change. “Knowledge is power, and sharing that knowledge is the first spark in igniting change.” This is the fundamental principle behind CatalystCon. For more information, visit www.CatalystCon.com or www.Twitter.com/CatalystCon.

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