The Pleasure Principle: An Introduction to Tantric Massage

The mutual satisfaction transmitted through giving and receiving a massage satisfies desires ultimately rooted in the inner psyche. Many forms of erotic Tantric practices address this subject in great detail and assign it a seemingly endless series of labels. For our purposes, we’ll invoke the simple phrase “massage” as a sort of mnemonic catch-all. My goal in doing this is to liberate erotic massage from any specific cultural or spiritual tradition, and have you look instead at the principles of arousal that work universally within all of our bodies – and souls.

For some, tantric sex, at least the modern Western variation of tantra, is what first comes to mind when the subject turns to sensual massage. But as is often the case when East Meets West in the area of sex, misconceptions and misinterpretations are all too common. Tantric sex practices are incredibly diverse; from techniques designed to align the physical body with one’s desires and emotions, to exercises specifically aimed at taking one’s partner to the brink of ecstasy and beyond.

So men, whether you’re out to impress a new lady in your life, or looking to explore new regions of pleasure with your longtime companion, here are some fairly universal basics that take you both where you want to go…

Your sensual “pleasure chest” should always have these essentials: massage oils and towels, as well as select lubricants and enhancers like those contained in our Wicked Sensual Care collection. You’ll likely want to keep some baby wipes handy as well.

Once you initiate a massage with your partner, take it slow. Take your time and don’t rush into more overt sexual foreplay. Give her an actual tissue massage before becoming more intimate. Start softly, gently, and begin by applying the lotions to your hands first, rather than directly to her skin. As you use your hands, also lubricate your arms and chest, integrating as much of your torso into your massage as you can.

At this point, you’ll very likely find her extremely responsive to your kisses, nipple rubs, etc. Entering her vagina with your fingers will put a reservoir of pleasure within your grasp. We have a volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” devoted to the “The G-Spot” that acts as a perfect tutorial in how to pleasure a woman to blissful orgasm.

With the skills you develop through viewing the DVD, you’ll be on your way to creating rewarding massage experiences regularly. And should you become interested in “digging deeper,” metaphysically speaking, such disciplines as the Tantric Vama Marga tradition are rich in lore, tips, and tricks that will take your erotic explorations ever higher.

Some find Vama Marga too intellectually rigorous for the bedroom, yet still wish to amplify the spiritual side of their lovemaking. In these cases I encourage adventurous lovers to explore the Vajrayana Tantrism of Tibet. This particular Buddhist tradition offers a plethora of useful techniques, positions, and perspectives in which the philosophical content doesn’t get in the way of the sensuality, but is there if you want it. It also employs a more universal approach to sensual fulfillment; hacking away at excessive dogma, while preserving the sensuality inherent to the core practices.

Whether you and your lover seek to blend your sex lives with the more contemplative sides your relationship, or are simply eager to rekindle the “flame,” you’ll find sensual massage puts a higher sexual union within reach.

–Daniel M.

The Rules of a Threesome

Rules of a Threesome: The Comfort Zone

Having written previously about how to initiate a threesome, I think it’s important to dig deeper and look at some of the potential hazards lovers must navigate once they’ve found the third person for their “ménage à trois.”

Pre-Game Report: Get in the Zone

While sensitivity, compassion and respect are foundationally important in all forms of sexual
exploration, they’re critical to threesomes, where the tastes and boundaries of each person
must be clearly communicated in advance to maximize “the comfort zone” for all involved.

I subtitled my jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex DVD from Wicked Pictures Every Man’s
Fantasy because, ultimately, this has been my experience after years of interaction with my
male fans. So let’s get real. Men, if another woman is entering the sexual equation, keep
one thing in mind: It’s not all about you! If you’ve followed the steps outlined in my previous
Threesomes article, then this lady is there because she’s likely as attracted to your partner as she is to you. Everything you do physically and emotionally should reinforce this chemistry.

Possibly the most important rule to remember during a threesome is the Rule of Firsts. Always make sure your everyday partner is the first you go down on, have intercourse with, give an orgasm, or receive your semen. The more couples I speak with who engage in threesomes, the more I understand this to be the Golden Rule when it comes to bringing in a third person.

Halftime Report: First Among Equals

Once you are in bed, pleasure both women with as much mutual attention as possible. Be
generous! As you’ve already discussed boundaries and positions in advance, modulate your sensual choices accordingly – for example, if kissing isn’t within your new lover’s comfort zone, touch and caress her body passionately without “going there,” even if the heat of the moment is attempting to persuade you otherwise.

And of course, it’s the same once the penetration begins. If she seemed disinterested in, say, one-on-one missionary sex with you when specific positions were discussed earlier, don’t try to press the point once all three of you are between the sheets.

If you’re truly 100% present with both ladies as you move from each mutual act to another, you’ll treat each woman as “firsts among equals.” And chances are, you’re going to enjoy the way your sexual savvy is rewarded.

Post-Game Wrap-Up: Don’t Be the Last to Know

As this heady adventure becomes a happy memory,  be open and honest with your partner
about your experience. You may think you were the perfect gentleman, but invite her opinions, good and bad.

Communication and honesty are key, as always. Regardless of whether you both see more
threesomes looming on the horizon, candidly discuss what you got right and even, more
importantly, where you may have gone wrong – especially if any sexual “lines in the sand” were blurred or, even worse, crossed.

Of the three stages of sharing I’ve outlined here, the “Post-Game Wrap-Up” may be the most important of all, as it will probably dictate whether or not you and your partner ever go down this road again. So don’t just listen to her thoughts – hear them.

Be completely honest in your own feelings as well. This is why honesty is so paramount – if you don’t believe your partner has accepted your thoughts on the subject with sincerity, you’ll find yourself reminding her of it in a million ways.

While I touched on positions ever so briefly here, be sure to investigate jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Threesomes – Every Man’s Fantasy for more explicit and varied examples.

I’ll be writing more on this topic in the near future, but in the meantime, I wish you the best as your own “Game Day” threesome approaches. If you stay within the comfort zone, not only will you cross the finish line, you’ll recognize it like a long-lost friend.

For Immediate Release | jessica drake Named Official Sex Educator For Adult DVD Empire.com

JANUARY 5, 2012 – LOS ANGELES CA – Emerging sexual wellness authority and adult entertainment superstar jessica drake is the official sex educator for Adult DVD Empire.com. The popular adult entertainment e-tail site is launching “Ask jessica drake Anything,” a place for members of its vast online community to submit questions about sex, love and relationships. Each month, the Wicked Pictures contract star will select ten questions and post her answers on the site. In addition to receiving jessica’s advice, the authors of the questions will each receive complete sets of the “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” educational DVD series.

To submit questions to “Ask jessica drake Anything,” fans are encouraged to visit her official online column, located at http://www.adultdvdempire.com/pm/ask_jessica_drake.aspx .

AdultDVDEmpire.com Director of Marketing Courtney Arthur states, “We feel very lucky to have jessica drake join our team in her new role as the official sex educator of Adult DVD Empire. jessica drake has always been a favorite here, and I know both our male and female customers are going to jump at the chance to get her expert insight and opinion on their sex and relationship questions.”

“It’s a huge honor for me to be the exclusive sex educator for Adult DVD Empire.com,” says jessica drake. “The site has always been supportive of my movies, and I am thrilled they are interested in becoming involved in the educational aspect of my career as well. I look forward to sharing advice with their community and hope both I and my series, ‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,’ may be of help.”

Uniting a lifetime of study with a decade’s worth of experiential research, “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” is receiving excellent reviews. The critics at XBIZ rave about the franchise, praising jessica’s unique ability to “connect with people through her friendly and personal approach” and dubbing the series “the steamiest instructional line on the market!” AVN’s Heather Namikoshi writes, “The overall tone for the female viewer is calming and accepting, and drake does a good job at creating a safe learning space within the production. The demonstrations are good and shot well to instruct newbies in various techniques…” Gawker Media’s Fleshbot is equally laudatory of jessica, crediting her with bringing a “sexy, articulate and professional” new voice to the sexual self-help genre.

Volumes in “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” include “Fellatio,” “Anal,” and “Positions.” A fourth installment, “Female Masturbation,” has been completed and will be released on January 25, 2012.

“jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” is honored with 6 nominations for the 2012 AVN Awards, including Best New Series. “Fellatio,” “Anal,” and “Positions” are each nominated for Best Educational Release, while “Fellatio” received nominations for Best Oral Release and Best Oral Sex Scene (Bobbi Starr).

In addition to creating this exclusive line of educational DVDs and her position as the official sex educator for Adult DVD Empire.com, jessica assists men and women in becoming more sexually aware with Sex for the Wicked Woman, a series of powerful and engaging self-help seminars illuminated by her expertise and passion for research.

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Trailer for “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Female Masturbation”

The best way to be a better lover is to love yourself, and that’s exactly what you’ll do, with the help of this DVD. In jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex – Female Masturbation, you’ll find the keys to unlocking the big O.

 

Trailer for “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions”

Bored in bed? Looking to spice things up for both you AND your partner? Then you’ve come to the right place! I’m jessica drake, and in this Guide to Wicked Sex, we’ll explore everything you need to know to turn some basic positions into something even more satisfying. Learn how to change things up and enrich your sex life…get closer and more intimate with your partner… and experience deeper orgasms. Give me 90 minutes of your time, and I’ll teach you some techniques that will make your toes curl and rock your lover’s world!

Trailer for “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Fellatio”

Open your erotic potential with the help of this exciting, informative, and groundbreaking production. jessica drake takes a candid look at how men and women really feel about fellatio. With the help of three couples, youll see demonstrations that include basic positions, tips, technique, deep throating and even exploring the prostate. You can also watch with or without narration to help you improve on your own technique! So dont be shy, its time to discover the Wicked woman inside of youand with jessicas guide to fellatio, youll blow his mind and more!

Trailer for “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal”

Curious about anal sex, but afraid to try it? Maybe you have unanswered questions and just don’t know where to start. With my help, we’ll change all of that. I’m jessica drake, and in this Guide to Wicked Sex, you’ll learn everything you need to know to enjoy your first anal experience. With the help of two anal experts, you’ll learn how to prepare, experiment with toys, choose the correct lube, and finally how to go all the way. You may have thought about trying anal sex to please your man, but I’ll show you just how satisfying it can be for both of you!

Media Advisory | jessica drake Brings Sex Education to Playboy Radio

Media Advisory | jessica drake Brings Sex Education to Playboy Radio 

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Wicked Superstar Adds Weekly “Guide to Wicked Sex” Segments to “IN BED with jessica drake”   

LOS ANGELES, CA – (OCTOBER 11, 2011) – Fresh from the release of her third erotic educational DVD, jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions, three-time AVN Best Actress winner and emerging sexual wellness authority jessica drake is bringing her passion for teaching sexual responsibility to the airwaves. Beginning this week, the charming Texan is adding an exciting Guide to Wicked Sex segment to her popular Playboy Radio show IN BED with jessica drake. The show airs each Tuesday afternoon at 2:00 PM PST on XM and Sirius 99.

Each week’s Guide to Wicked Sex segment will find this captivating writer, producer, director and host addressing a different aspect of human sexuality as she touches on subjects ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation.

“I’m really excited about adding the Guide to Wicked Sex segment to my radio show,” says jessica of the change to her popular program’s format. “IN BED with jessica drake is the perfect place to reveal some of my tips for enriching your sex life. Each week I’ll highlight a different approach to finding your sexual bliss.” Just as she does in her educational DVDs, jessica will explore each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience and good humor that has led Gawker Media’s Fleshbot to laud her for bringing a “sexy, articulate and professional” new voice to the sexual self-help genre.

In addition to the informative Guide to Wicked Sex segments, IN BED with jessica drake will feature weekly surprise guests. Listeners wishing to learn more about all things jessica can speak to her directly by calling the show’s hotline, (877) 205-9796. At press time, other confirmed airdates for October include the 18th and the 25th.

Just as she brings her sex positive message to the masses via radio and home video, jessica is also helping lovers become more sexually aware with Sex for the Wicked Woman, a series of self-help seminars illuminated by her vast expertise and passion for research.

To view the jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions trailer, visit: http://www.wickedb2b.com/movies/jessica-drakes-guide-to-wicked-sex-positions.

To learn more about the jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex series, visit: www.guidetowickedsex.com

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Wicked Pictures Proudly Releases Its Third Breakthrough Educational DVD: ‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions’.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE | Wicked Pictures Proudly Releases Its Third Breakthrough Educational DVD, ‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions’.

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LOS ANGELES, CA – (SEPTEMBER 30, 2011) – XBIZ Feature Studio of the Year Wicked Pictures is pleased to introduce jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions. Arriving in stores today, this illuminating DVD finds three-time AVN Best Actress winner and emerging sexual wellness authority jessica drake unveiling techniques couples can use to expand their sexual repertoire and enjoy heightened levels of pleasure and intimacy.

With her trademark warmth and delicious humor, jessica treats viewers to a collection of lovemaking positions that comes complete with tips on how to augment each act for greater mutual satisfaction. Each position is explored in interviews with such popular adult performers as 2011 AVN Best Actress winner India Summer, Aubrey Addams, Victoria Lawson, Rhianna Rimes, Rocco Reed, Justin Magnum, TJ Cummings and Tyler Knight. These candid conversations deliver everything from pointers on health and hygiene to tips on improving communication in bed.

For jessica, performer chemistry was crucial to creating these revealing sequences. “I always ask people who they want to work with long before shooting. It gives everything a greater level of realism and intimacy, and it allows the focus to be on communication and having the best sexual experience possible.”

Of her goals for this release, jessica reveals, “I wanted to show people how they can take the basic positions and, with some minor changes, turn them into something even more exciting and satisfying. These tips will help you create more variety in your sex life, become more intimate with your partner, and experience deeper orgasms.”

Uniting a lifetime of study with a decade’s worth of experiential research, the jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex series is already receiving excellent reviews. The critics at XBIZ are raving about the franchise, praising jessica’s unique ability to “connect with people through her friendly and personal approach” and dubbing the series “the steamiest instructional line on the market!” Gawker Media’s Fleshbot has been just as effusive in its appreciation of jessica, crediting her with bringing a “sexy, articulate and professional” new voice to the sexual self-help genre.

In addition to creating this exclusive line of educational DVDs, jessica is helping men and women become more sexually aware with Sex for the Wicked Woman, a series of powerful and engaging self-help seminars illuminated by her vast expertise and passion for research.

To view the jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Basic Positions trailer, visit: http://www.wickedb2b.com/movies/jessica-drakes-guide-to-wicked-sex-positions.

To learn more about the jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex series, visit:  www.guidetowickedsex.com. For more information about Wicked Pictures, visit: www.wicked.com.

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Wicked Pictures Proudly Releases Its Second Acclaimed Educational DVD: ‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal’.

For Immediate Release | Wicked Pictures Proudly Releases Its Second Breakthrough Educational DVD: ‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal’.

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LOS ANGELES, CA – (SEPTEMBER 1, 2011) – 2011 XBIZ Studio of the Year Wicked Pictures is pleased to introduce jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal, the second release in its breakthrough series of educational DVDs. This title finds three-time AVN Best Actress winner and emerging sexual wellness authority jessica drake dispelling common myths about anal sex with revealing interviews and intimate sexual demonstrations. Drawing on her background as an internationally experienced sex expert, this informative DVD allows Ms. drake to combine her passion for teaching with her goal of helping couples discover their erotic potential. Already dubbed “the best anal instructional film I’ve ever seen” by XCritic.Com, this provocative new release goes on sale at retail locations across the country this week.

Uniting a lifetime of study with a decade’s worth of experiential research, jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal is a creative and all-encompassing examination of safer anal sex practices. With a unique blend of factual demonstrations and good humor, jessica calmly delivers the kind of encouragement that can help even an absolute beginner explore this sensation-rich act with confidence.

Of her goals for this title, jessica reveals, “I wanted to clear up some popular misconceptions. Women often express concern about discomfort, so we teach them how to create a pleasurable experience. I’ve also receive many questions about preparation, which is why I had Dana DeArmond give a demonstration. She’s wonderfully down to earth and communicates everything with a sense of humor. You’ll learn how to prepare, experiment with toys, choose the correct lube, pick the best positions, and finally how to go all the way.” With warmth and humor, jessica demystifies the “taboo” of anal activity, putting viewers at ease by stressing the potential for incredible pleasure that it brings when practiced correctly.

Ms. drake explores these topics in a series of interviews which unite such popular adult stars as Dana DeArmond and Asa Akira with talented amateurs. These disarming conversations dispel common misconceptions about anal sex while delivering invaluable details on everything from hygiene to improving communication, safety, and trust in one’s partner. “I cast people in this production who were relevant to the topic,” jessica says. “I encouraged them to be as intimate as possible, and I was extremely pleased with how open they were.” In their review, XCritic.Com called these revealing talks “highly informative, entertaining, honest, and always useful.” (To read the entire review, visit http://bit.ly/pf5ndR.)

For Wicked Pictures V.P. of Special Projects Joy King, these skillfully conducted interviews set this title apart from anything else in the marketplace. “The interviews are fascinating because, frankly, those interviewed discuss the topic the way they wish it had been explained to them in the past. Imparting information on such a personal topic can be intimidating, but they keep it authentic. The adult performers share enlightening personal experiences while the amateur couple inspires the viewer with anecdotes that are both humbling and informative.”

As the line’s creator and host, Ms. drake also sees the interviews as crucial in elevating the franchise. “I am on camera narrating each volume, but the emphasis is on the candid interviews with the participants. They are warm, intimate, and sensual, and although the demonstrations are explicit in nature, this DVD shouldn’t be thought of as an adult movie. Rather, it’s the key that opens the door to exploring new sexual territory with your partner.”

In addition to creating this exclusive line of educational DVDs, jessica is helping men and women become more sexually aware with Sex for the Wicked Woman, a series of self-help seminars illuminated by her vast expertise and passion for research. For more information, please visit www.wicked.com.  

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