Throughout history the term seduction carried with it a negative connotation. Seducing a person meant leading them astray of their virtuous path, often in a sexual manner. Eve seduced Adam with a metaphoric apple. Casanova seduced so many ladies, his name has now become synonymous with “womanizer,” not a flattering term. In the mid 1900s, you could even be charged with the crime of seduction, like Frank Sinatra was.
More recently, seduction has also taken on a positive definition. Seduction can mean the act of flirting with or charming another person regardless of whether sex is the ultimate goal… though it often still is.
There is an art to seduction. Women and men respond to different forms of seduction, and of course every person responds differently within their generalized group. For the sake of this blog, it is necessary to generalize though. We’ll touch on seducing men another time (and no, it isn’t as simple as showing our breasts… usually). Right now, our focus is going to be how to seduce a woman, whether you are a man or a woman.
Here are some of my tips for seducing a woman:
Actions Speak Louder than Words. It’s fine to relay to her how you want to run your hand through her hair, take her out to a nice restaurant, or kiss her like she’s never been kissed before, but ultimately the time will come for you to stop talking and to actually make good on your rhetoric: flowers, door holding, and a passionate kiss that leaves her weak in the knees.
Always Be Confident, Even When You’re Nervous. I still get nervous when I see a woman I’m attracted to – it’s only natural. Being a little nervous is even cute to many women, as long as you are showing confidence, like you deserve to be standing there with them. It’s okay to have a sweaty palm as long as you displayed the confidence to reach out and take her hand.
Pay Attention to Detail. Noticing her new outfit or haircut can go a long way towards putting you on a woman’s radar. The same attention to detail is true with her body language. If you see her shiver, offer her a coat. These gestures show her she is a priority.
Compliment Her. Complimenting someone, especially a woman you are attracted to, is an art unto itself. Compliments must be well thought out. Too many compliments and you risk being construed as insincere. Too general of compliments, and you come off as contrived. Think of compliments as a way to ease her insecurities. They should also be tailored to the specific woman. Using sensory words like “feel,” “smell,” and “taste” help make the compliments even more personal: “I love how soft your hair feels and how it smells like strawberries.”
Her Pleasure Comes First. Seduction doesn’t stop once you get her in the bedroom, otherwise you may not find yourself invited a second time. By always putting her first, whether it’s giving her the last bite of dessert or the first orgasm, you are showing her she is the most important thing to you, similar to the tip to pay attention to detail.
Perhaps the single best tip I can give you about seduction, especially seducing a woman, is not to treat it like a game. There’s no bigger turn off than the feeling of being played or like you’re a statistic – besides, in games there are only one winner. If all goes well while trying to seduce a woman who has caught your eye, you will both be winners.