The 5 Things Every BDSM Beginner Should Know

A few weeks ago the editors at approached me about writing a blog with BDSM tips and advice for beginners. I’m happy to report the blog is now up on their site.

The 5 Things Every BDSM Beginner Should Know (Published 7/23/15 on


There is no denying that BDSM is trendy right now. Look no further than the shelves of your local bookstore, and you’ll see not only the books of E.L. James but also a surge of other erotic writers capitalizing on the desire for edgier sex and steamier novels. When the movie Fifty Shades of Grey premiered in theaters on Valentine’s Day, couples rushed to see it, and many of those couples went on to act out their on-screen fantasies. More than ever, I’ve recently fielded questions from wives (and husbands!) who want to spank or be spanked, to tie up or be tied up, but don’t really know where to begin. BDSM can be a great way to liven things up in bed, but it’s important to have at least a minimal knowledge of safety before you get started. Here are some basic points for the BDSM beginner.

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