5 Tips to Giving Great Oral Sex

*Originally appeared as a guest blog post on “Dirty And Thirty.”

If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s the majority of men love a great blowjob. Therefore, in honor of “Steak and Blowjob Day,” I have taken the liberty of sharing five of my favorite tips for giving incredible head.


  • Start Slow and Let Him Know It’s “Blow Job Time”: When giving fellatio, always start slow and let your partner know its all for his benefit. In your own words, tell your man that it’s “blow job time” and you expect nothing in return. You can use this information to tease him with a suggestive text or phone call earlier in the day. Then when the time comes, use only your tongue. Don’t incorporate hands yet. Tease him into full arousal, and if he’s already aroused, make him want it even more.
  • Perception Is Everything: When giving a man oral sex, his point of view is very important. Keep your location in mind and always think of ways to stimulate him visually, as well as physically. For example, consider positioning yourself in front of a mirror, or somewhere with a partial view of a mirror. As noted in “Guide to Wicked Sex: Fellatio,” a popular volume in my sex instructional series, be sure to wear something that shows off your breasts and tie your hair into a ponytail to give him a clear view. This way, your man can fully appreciate his blowjob and watch it from different angles.
  • Be Enthusiastic: Men love it when you enjoy giving them pleasure. Moan and make it obvious that you like what you’re doing. When he starts to cum, be enthusiastic! Don’t stop, and if you don’t want to swallow, use your saliva and his cum to stroke him. Rub his cock with all your saliva and use both hands until he stops moving. He’ll never notice, and he’ll thank you later for not stopping!
  • Use Flavored Lubes: Flavored lubes can make giving oral sex extremely tasty. My favorite personal lubricants are from the Wicked Sensual Care collection, which contains 100 percent plant-based derivatives and glycerin – thus making them vegan and PETA-compliant. The line also includes several products with the glycerin-free advantage—hypoallergenic Sensitive, Jellé, and an entire silicone-based Ultra line. Spread a thin layer of lube on your man’s cock and then dive in. He’ll taste wonderful!
  • Eye Contact: When giving fellatio, I cannot overstress the need for eye contact. When you’re looking into his eyes and moaning, it signals that you are confidence and love what you’re doing. This will trigger an instinctive, animalistic reaction from your man, and he will feel more relaxed and more turned on– and experience an incredible orgasm!

Demonstrating you care as much about your man’s sexual satisfaction as you do your own is a great way to show your appreciation and boost his confidence. Use all of my tips, and don’t be scared to try new things. Later, when it’s your turn, I’ll bet your guy will be just as eager to return the favor!



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Interviewed About “Steps To Having OMG Oral Sex” on Your Tango!

Have you ever wanted to give your partner the oral sex experience of their life? Or perhaps even subtly suggest ways for your significant other to step up their cunninlus or felatio skills? Whether you’re doing it as an act of foreplay or as a precursor to the main bedroom antics, besides anticipation, there are 10 simple steps that you can follow to up your oral sex game.


I recently did an interview with Aly Walansky of Your Tango on “10 Steps To Having OMG Oral Sex.” Click on the link below to check it out and up your oral ante.


PMS: Helpful tips to get over that time of the month, every month

Perhaps it’s human instinct cueing our lovers when it’s our time of the month again, or maybe it’s the chocolate wrappers, incessant crying, and the sweats we wore to work. When Mother Nature punishes you for not being pregnant with low self-esteem and unstoppable cravings for a chocolate donut, it’s difficult to be intimate with your partner, especially when you feel like criticizing them and bursting into tears after. However, there are ways to cooperate with the flow of nature and have sex on your period. Yes, you can have sex on your period! Here’s how we can keep our relationship serene and sexy when it’s code red in our pants:

Relax. In order to combat your plummeting levels of progesterone, a calming hormone, engage in a relaxing activity. Relaxing with a partner can stabilize each other’s moods during a time when both parties may get frustrated. The soothing warmth of rubbing bodies in a cozy bed or naked time in a sauna can alleviate an unresolved argument and the pains of menstrual cramps. I like to treat myself with a nice warm bath after a long shoot, especially when I’m cramping. Adding a few droplets of lavender oil can reduce anxiety. Adding rose oil can relieve depressive feelings. Adding a naked lover is known to relieve tension.

Then have sex. There are options so let me break them down.

Vaginal sex – Avoid messiness and have your partner penetrate you in a bath or shower. The water will wash away all evidence of period sex. But I totally understand shower sex is something that happens more often in movies because the small space doesn’t allow flexibility for sex positions or comfort. However, like I always say, try it out! Otherwise, you can have period sex anywhere else as long as you have a cloth to catch your menses. A dark towel or two will work! I’d suggest sticking to positions requiring you and/or your partner to lie down to avoid dripping off the towel.

Additional ways to prevent a mess include inserting a menstrual cup or an all-natural sea sponge into your vagina before penetration. You can try Softcups or Jade & Pearl sea sponges, which will be virtually unnoticeable during sex. Since they’re both reusable, fucking will also be eco-friendly!

Anal sex – I actually enjoy anal sex the most when I’m on my period. The pumping may feel like it’s massaging your womb and lower back, and you can achieve intense orgasms! First clear your anus of feces by safely self-administering an enema. Or have your partner wear a condom as long as your anal passageway is clear. Then insert a cup or tampon to catch your flow. Lie on your stomach, preferably on a firm surface, and have your partner thrust on top of you with their cock or strap-on. Meanwhile underneath, put pressure on your clitoris with your fingers or a vibrator–their thrusting will add punctuated pressure that feels damn good and will take you to orgasm.

Oral sex – Tampons, sponges, and menstrual cups are fantastic if you want your clitoris and vulva licked. Unless your partner doesn’t mind a little taste of menstrual blood–which isn’t harmful–make sure your vulva is washed clean. Of course, you can return the favor to your partner.

Menstruation is definitely an emotionally precarious time. Sometimes, PMS gives us a push to address prolonged problems you wouldn’t have a week before. Menses is a monthly opportunity for partners to exercise empathy, patience, and sexual creativity.



jessica drake Leads Modern Sex Ed Seminars at Cirilla’s Stores

Award-Winning ‘Guide to Wicked Sex’ Creator, Sex Educator to Educate on Oral Sex in Sandusky & Boardman, Ohio, January 30-31!

JANUARY 28, 2014 – Sandusky, OH — Sexual wellness authority and sex educator jessica drake will appear at Cirilla’s stores in Ohio to present her popular “Sex Talk with jessica drake” seminar series. On Thursday, January 30 drake will speak at the Cirilla’s store in Sandusky, and on Friday, January 31, she will present at the Boardman location.

jessica drake’s workshops will focus on oral sex, walking participants through the ins and outs of fellatio on a man and going down on a woman, as well as offering tips and techniques. Audience members are encouraged to engage in a positive discussion regarding general attitudes men and women have towards sex, as well as their personal experiences. Each presentation concludes with an open Q-and-A session. Afterwards, drake will sign autographs and take pictures with guests.

For complete details about “Sex Talk with jessica drake” and to RSVP, visit Cirilla’s Facebook page and website.

“From my appearances and workshops, it is evident there is a real interest in straightforward information about sex,” says drake. “Speaking with people on a personal level about how to have better, more enriching sex is something I always look forward to. Cirilla’s has always been very welcoming, and their patrons are enthusiastic about learning more about great sex. I’ve been to their Indiana and Michigan stores so far, and I am really looking forward to presenting my workshops at Cirilla’s stores in Ohio this month.”

After a store appearance and signing nearly five years ago, jessica drake was approached by a woman who admitted she had never experienced an orgasm and wondered why. drake was touched by the confession and request for help, and noticing a dramatic increase in the number of women and couples attending her appearances, she saw a demand for modern sex education.

drake is the writer, producer, and director of her line of instructional DVDs, jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex, through which she teaches people to explore their sexuality in a fun, safe, and responsible way. She teaches how to set boundaries and still have wonderful sex. She also emphasizes consent (and alcohol’s effects), how to say “No,” and how to communicate effectively about sex. jessica is a big advocate on condoms and safe sex, but she does not believe in government regulation of a woman’s body.

jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex is a critically acclaimed sex-ed video series from Wicked Pictures. jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal received the 2012 XBIZ award for Specialty Release of the Year, and jessica drake’s Guide To Wicked Sex: Fellatio took home the AVN Award for Best Educational Release in 2012. jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal Play for Men was named Best Educational Release at this year’s 2014 AVN Awards.

“Having the ‘Guide to Wicked Sex’ series has allowed me to extend modern sex education to an international audience,” continues drake. “I still love when I can make personal appearances at stores across and speak with people face to face. Learning what people are actually curious about allows us to all grow sexually.”

A fervent educator on sexual health and wellness, drake is a highly sought-after sexual wellness speaker who lectures at universities, teaches seminars, and runs workshops globally. Through her series of workshops and seminars and her line of instructional DVDs, jessica teaches people to explore their sexuality in a fun, safe, and responsible way. She teaches how to set boundaries, emphasize consent, and still have wonderful sex while communicating effectively with partners.

drake will speak at 7pm on Thursday, January 30 at Cirilla’s, 3104 Milan Rd, Sandusky, OH 44870. On Friday, January 31 at 7pm, drake will present her seminar at Cirilla’s, 64 Boardman Poland Rd, Boardman, OH 44512.

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Three-time AVN Best Actress winner and sexual wellness authority jessica drake brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today’s hottest adult stars in her “Guide to Wicked Sex” series. The stimulating sequences are sensual, provocative and enlivened by an informative optional audio commentary. In each volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” writer, producer, director, and host jessica drake addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. jessica explores each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor, which led Dee Dennis, the founder of sexuality conference CatalystCon, to praise her as “an amazing sex educator and speaker, who represents a new direction and is breaking new ground” in the sexual self-help genre. The series’ volume on Fellatio earned AVN’s 2012 Best Educational Release trophy, “Anal” was named XBIZ’s 2012 Specialty Release of the Year, “Anal Sex for Men” received AVN’s 2014 Best Educational Release award. For more information, visit www.GuideToWickedSex.com or www.Twitter.com/Guide2WickedSex.

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10 Steps to the Perfect Blow Job

I created 10 Steps to the Perfect Blow Job as a short and concise guide for lovers all over the globe.   Most men love nothing more than no-strings-attached oral sex.    It’s a perfect gift for any occasion and I can personally guarantee it will be the one item that definitely isn’t returned for another size.  Keep your lover satisfied and surprised with this generous offering whenever the mood is right.


  1. Wear something that shows cleavage! You can also keep a hair tie around your wrist, if needed. A ponytail will give him an unobstructed view.
  2. What to say – in your own words, make sure your man knows this is all for him, it’s blow job time and you expect nothing in return. You can even tease him with this earlier in the day, with a suggestive text or phone call.
  3. Before you do anything, drink something that will hydrate your mouth or have a sugary treat- this usually makes lots of slippery spit!
  4. Location, location, location – while every man might have his own special place, i’ve found positioning the blow job in front of a mirror, or at least with a view of a mirror, will give your man a whole new dimension.  He has all the excitement of getting a blow job plus he can watch it from different angles.
  5. Start slow. Tongue only.  No hands.  Tease him into full arousal.  If he’s already aroused, make him want it even more.
  6. Lick, then swirl your tongue around the head of his cock. Experiment with different tongue techniques. Don’t forget the balls.  Then slowly, slowly, slowly slide your mouth down his shaft.
  7. Deep throat.  (Do not do this on a full stomach.)  Deep throat until you conjure up that wet, gooey saliva.  Stop and look at up and tell him how much you love his cock.
  8. Once his cock is soaked with your saliva, use your hands.  Both of them.  Everywhere.  Let your hands be an extension of your mouth.  Cork screw.  Hold the base of his penis with one hand, while masturbating him with the other.  Don’t stop sucking.  Massage his balls.  Lightly push on his perineum.  If he likes ass play, play with his ass. Read his body language, and respond accordingly.
  9. Slow down.  It will drive him crazy.  Let him guide your mouth and your head.  Relax and let your man fuck your mouth and hands at his own rhythm.
  10. When he starts to cum, don’t stop.  If you don’t want to swallow, he will never know.  Use his cum with your saliva to stroke him. Suck and rub his cock with both hands and all your saliva until he stops moving.





50 Ways to Seduce Your Lover

50 Ways to Seduce Your Lover is a quick reference guide to set the stage for intimacy.  Morning, noon or night, your partner will be delighted with these simple ideas that let them know you’re in the mood.  Flatter your lover with desire and the sentiment will be returned more times than not.  These tips can be done at home or on the road, they are simple, easy on the budget and very effective.  Pick one that appeals to you and let the games begin.

    1. Role Play  (i.e. nurse, cheerleader, the beautiful stranger)
    2. Send him sexy pictures via text
    3. Give him/her a sensual massage with oil
    4. Give him the  remote control to your vibrating panties
    5. Go commando
    6. Set the stage to have an adult movie playing when he gets home from work
    7. Wear lingerie

  1. Send suggestive texts
  2. Join your partner in the shower
  3. Go to bed naked
  4. Wake him/her up with oral sex
  5. Walk around the house naked
  6. Perform a strip tease
  7. Read erotica to each other
  8. Watch an Xrated movie together and copy what they’re doing on the screen
  9. Kiss their neck
  10. Go bra-less
  11. Smile / wink
  12. Masturbate in front of your mate
  13. Share a sexual fantasy
  14. Slip a pair of panties in his briefcase
  15. Bite your lip
  16. Wear his shirt with nothing else
  17. Wear his favorite perfume
  18. Show up naked in a trench coat
  19. Surprise him with a Lap Dance
  20. Suck her/his fingers or toes
  21. Do your early morning yoga naked
  22. Breakfast in bed that he can eat off of you
  23. Reach under the dinner table and gentle run your fingers over the outline of his cock
  24. Sneak him into the dressing room at a store as you’re trying on clothes for a quickie
  25. Drop something right in front of him, bend over and graze your butt against his cock
  26. Oral Sex in the car while driving
  27. Initiating sex after a workout
  28. Wrestle with your mate
  29. Let your lover choose positions from a kama sutra book then get to work
  30. Watch her get dressed
  31. Cook his favorite meal in nothing but high heels and an apron
  32. Show up for a nooner
  33. Create sex coupons and leave them throughout the house
  34. Masturbate in the passenger seat while they’re driving
  35. Sex in an airplane (works best in first class!)
  36. Oral sex in the movies
  37. Stroke them with satin/faux fur gloves
  38. Feed him tasty treats with your fingers
  39. In a very public place, lean over and whisper into their ear how much you want them
  40. Suck on phallic shaped objects like lollipops or bananas in his presence
  41. Play Dress Up
  42. Wait for him to come home in nothing but his tie and high heels
  43. Take a bubble bath together

The ‘Big O’

“I never orgasm from intercourse, only from a vibrator or when I play with myself, occasionally from oral sex, but never when my boyfriend and I are having sex. He always gets upset and thinks that he’s doing something wrong. What should I do/tell him?”   -Julie,26

Real Guy says:

Sex is about two things for a man; his orgasm, and his ability to make you orgasm. Most men won’t consider sex satisfactory unless both of you cross the finish line. Is his technique top-notch? In other words, have you climaxed with others? If so, he might want to consider some type of self-help video or book. After all, nobody is born with the ability to get a woman off. You might also want to give your bf control of the vibrator when you have sex. Explain that not all women climax the same way. Just as some women are loud, and others are more controlled, some women take longer than others to orgasm (sometimes a LOT longer, by the way). Either way, if your bf has the vibrator, he will regain some semblance of control when it comes to your orgasm.