Girls’ Night Out at Cornell Winery!

Come join me on Thursday, June 25 at 7 pm for a “Girls’ Night Out” event at Cornell Winery in Agoura, California.

Although I do many seminars and enjoy speaking at Universities, this is going to be a really unique event. Instead of a workshop, this is going to be more of a participation driven round table discussion of all things sex! No topic is off limits, and all questions will be answered.

Having a girl’s night out at a winery will lend a different atmosphere to learning and sharing sexual information, and I’m looking forward to what I hope is the first of many fun, educational nights. Bring a friend and enjoy wine, cheese, chocolate, and some very Wicked gift bags, as well.

Visit www.CornellWinery.com for more information on the venue and read the below flyer for more info on the event and instructions on how to RSVP.

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jessica drake & TEAM WICKED Raise Thousands for AIDS Walk LA Fundraising Goal

Consisting of Adult Performers, Industry Workers, & Fans, TEAM WICKED Walked 10K in Support of LA County AIDS Organizations!

 
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WEST HOLLYWOOD, Calif. (October 15, 2014) – TEAM WICKED, led by Wicked Pictures performer and director jessica drake, raised thousands of dollars for the 30th Annual AIDS Walk Los Angeles, surpassing its original goal. Accumulating $14,585 in total donations for the October 12 event, Team Wicked ranks as the 15th highest fundraiser in 2014. This year’s 10 kilometer walk marks the fifth consecutive year drake has reprised her role as a “Star Walker” and the third year she’s organized TEAM WICKED on behalf of Wicked Pictures; TEAM WICKED has raised over $53,000 during those three years.

 

“I love supporting AIDS Walk LA and APLA,” said jessica drake. “Over the years as a participant, I’ve seen them make amazing progress helping those with HIV and taking part in research to prevent the spread of the disease as well. After doing the walk alone the first two years, I realized just how much we could accomplish by bringing TEAM WICKED together, and as always, I am SO proud of the team and SO grateful to Steve and Wicked Pictures for the support. I’m also thankful to everyone who donated their time and/or money. Thank you.”

 

Composed of drake, Wicked Pictures contract performer Asa Akira, and Wicked Pictures director Brad Armstrong, TEAM WICKED also included adult industry notables Allie Haze, Kylie Ireland, Victoria Rae Black, Anikka Albrite, Mick Blue, David Lord, Jack Napier, and Steviee Hughes.

 

“This was my third Aids Walk and this year we landed in the Top 15,” said Brad Armstrong. “That’s pretty impressive considering we’re going up against huge corporations like Toyota and Paramount Pictures. I also think it’s a great way for people in the adult business to show commitment to social issues, and I applaud Aids Walk LA for being open-minded enough to let us participate where other charities have shunned us.”

 

Steve Orenstein, founder of Wicked Pictures, also praised the team for its fundraising efforts, and thanked jessica drake for using her celebrity platform to impact the lives of others.

 

“I’m really proud of TEAM WICKED for coming together to make a difference in the lives of those affected by AIDS and HIV,” said Orenstein. “jessica uses her voice as a way to spread social consciousness, and the team exists thanks to her. I’m honored to have office staff – and amazing directors and actors, such as Brad and Asa – who continue to donate their time to the walk. The team succeeds because of everyone’s involvement.”

 

In addition to her charitable work, jessica drake is a highly sought after sexual wellness speaker and educator who lectures at universities and leads global seminars and workshops. She is the writer, producer, and director of the video series “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” which has received critical acclaim from adult industry authorities including AVN, XBIZ, and Fleshbot.com, as well as The Huffington Post.

 

AIDS Walk Los Angeles has drawn more than a half-million participants, who have collectively raised more than $72 million in its 27 years. The event, which has served as a model of grassroots fundraising and community activism for organizations across the United States, is sponsored by AIDS Project Los Angeles (APLA). It is dedicated to improving the lives of people affected by HIV disease, reducing the incidence of HIV infection, and advocating for fair and effective HIV-related public policy. APLA provides care and HIV prevention services throughout Los Angeles. For more information, visit http://apla.org and http://www.aidswalk.net/losangeles.
 
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About AIDS Walk Los Angeles:
The world’s first AIDS Walk was developed by Craig R. Miller in 1984, during the height of the AIDS epidemic. Seeing the need for immediate action in response to this public-health emergency, Miller sought to fill the void left by the government’s negligible response to the crisis. Drawing on his experience as a political and community organizer, Miller’s approach combined grassroots activism with fundraising and other campaign strategies to raise both awareness and urgently needed funds for the fight against AIDS. Miller brought his idea to the fledgling AIDS service organization, AIDS Project Los Angeles (APLA), who hired the young activist to produce this new event. Miller and APLA expected to draw a crowd of 1,000 supporters and raise $100,000 for this very first AIDS Walk. On July 28, 1985 in Los Angeles, 4,500 courageous and visionary people assembled at Paramount Studios and raised an astonishing $673,000. Since 1985, AIDS Walk Los Angeles has drawn over a half-million participants who have collectively raised more than $72 million for APLA. The event serves as a model of grassroots fundraising and community activism for organizations across the United States. For more information, visit http://www.aidswalk.net/.

 

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jessica drake shares her tips in “How to Look Incredible Naked” from DailyMakeover.com

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“I love to spray tan, but I always make sure to exfoliate at home first,” says Jessica Drake, a Wicked Pictures contract star and sex educator. “There are places that do custom airbrushing—even contour abs on your body—or there are booths that you stand in while a machine sprays you. If you’re not ready to commit to that, there are also gradual self-tanner lotions that you can buy in drugstores.” Use latex gloves if you’re self-applying, and take care with easily neglected areas like your feet so that you don’t end up with orange heels.

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Box Art Revealed: jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: The Art of StripTease

The 1st Nudity-Only Instructional Title in Sex Educator jessica drake’s Award-Winning Series Releases September 10!

Link: Guide to Wicked Sex: Strip Tease

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Featuring stars such as cover girl Alison Tyler, Beverly Lynn, and Sarah Shevon, the film demonstrates sexy techniques of striptease, including dressing in the right attire, undressing seductively with confidence, perfecting the walk of seduction, how to give a sexy lap dance, and even some pole tricks.

What Women Think About When Making Out (a Guest Blog)

***The following is a guest blog written for the site. I find it provides an interesting perspective I want to share, so I hope you enjoy. XO, jd

After a tumultuous breakup, women often rewind and go back to point A, where it all began – the kiss.  The memories may include a powerful smell of cologne, a faint taste of tobacco and coffee, or the softest lips you ever felt.  Maybe he was sloppy and lacking experience, or perhaps his tongue was too aggressive.  Or maybe all you could think at the time was, “SEX, SEX, SEX!”  The point is when making out, female brains are on high alert.  A kiss is often a foreteller of where things will lead, but we have to know how to read the signs and listen to our own thoughts.

WE ARE KISSING.  Sometimes in the act of kissing this is all I’m thinking.  Like a giddy 14-year-old who has waited 9 weeks for the next step with her first boyfriend, the first kiss feels all the same.  “I never expected him or myself to initiate this, but it’s happening.  It’s happening!”  He likes you, definitely.  Time to parade.

I AM FALLING IN LOVE.  Already.  And we’re thinking about the future: “Wait ‘til I tell my girlfriends about this!”  “Are you going to call me after I leave your car?”  “We’d be a cute couple, picnicking by the lake.”  “Perhaps, we’ll get married.  No, that’s crazy talk!  …We’d have hot children though, with our super genes.”  When we’re kissing, we always want more.  And sometimes it’s not just sex – it’s a phone call the next morning.

WOW HE IS USING A LOT OF TONGUE.  And other thoughts like these.  “Is his hand on my chest– how did that get there?” “My pants are unzipped?  He’s a magician.”  “SLOW DOWN!”  “Am I being too uptight?  I should play it cool.  Maybe I should graze his crotch.”  Tune into your heart, and I’m not being mushy here.  If he’s too aggressive and you’re feeling nervous, tell him to slow down.

AM I DOING THIS RIGHT?  “Does my breath stink?  Fuck, I never quite figured out how to best kiss.  That eHow article said to kiss his jawline.  Oh, biting his lip is supposed to be sexy.  That was awkward… I’ve been kissing the left side for about 3 minutes.  Now to the right.  Shit, we just bumped heads.”  If we’re still kissing, we’re probably doing it right.  Don’t get hung up in the small details, or you might find yourself obsessing over everything in the relationship.

OOPS, HOW DID WE END UP HERE?  “We just had a few drinks!  I barely found you interesting! … Ah, yes, we did have a few drinks.”  “How did we get from talking about the most effective natural detergent to here?”  One word: hormones.  Take a breather and clear your head before moving forward.

WILL THIS LEAD TO SEX?  Kissing stimulates your ovaries to start producing testosterone, which increases sexual excitement.  “This is definitely leading to sex.  Did I shave my vag?”  This is a special moment.  You’re intoxicated by hormones and you just let everything go, including insecurities about your body.

WAIT, WE SHOULD STOP.  “This will not go any further.”  “I want to take things slow.”  “Okay, five more minutes … Two more minutes … Fuck.”  Hahaha… GET LOOSE. 🙂

WE ARE GOING TO HAVE SEX. THAT IS A FACT.  Apparently adrenaline increases while we’re kissing and our inhibitions lower, meaning it’s unlikely we’ll stop to talk about alternative medicine or something.  “I wonder if sex will be good …  Does he have a nice penis?”  If the kissing is good, most likely sex will be even better.

A WANDERING MIND.  “What time is it?”  “Shoot I have to pay my phone bill tomorrow.”  “Game of Thrones tomorrow night!”  “Definitely getting a rash from your stubble.”  “He’s wearing Carlos Santana cologne.  I feel awesome that I know that.  What am I doing again?  Right, kissing!!!”  We’re multi-taskers too.  You kiss and undress us; we kiss and do our taxes.  This is not necessarily a negative thing, but be aware of the fact you aren’t fully caught up in the moment.

While a good first kiss may not always lead to a magical relationship, it’s quite often a bad first kiss is a sign of a lack of chemistry.  I’m a big believer in second chances, but if the spark isn’t there, it may be time to go in search of a new first kiss.

Why it’s more important than ever to fix the way we teach sex in schools.

Porn is now part of everyday life, say teenagers

Porn is entertainment for adults!  You wouldn’t watch “Fast & the Furious” to learn how to drive, and you shouldn’t watch porn to learn about sex.  In order to stress this fact, porn must be openly talked about along with other aspects of sex. Read more of the article from Indepent.co.uk here: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/education/education-news/most-young-people-agree-that-porn-creates-unrealistic-views-of-sex–but-they-still-admit-watching-it-9679160.html   Porn

Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size Hits #5 on AVN’s Top 50 Specialty Rentals Chart

 

Check out the AVN Chart here: http://www.avn.com/charts/Top-50-Specialty-Rentals/

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In honor of this I wanted to share some Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size images. Enjoy!

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jd

Guide to Wicked Flirting – Tips for the Ladies

The days of being courted by a gentleman on your parents’ veranda, while sipping lemonade are long gone – though if you ask me, they may have never truly existed. As generations age, they cling on to romanticized or exaggerated notions of their youth, but I’m sure many people still met at a bar, saloon, or speakeasy, often flirting without the gaze of their parents.

What has changed is society’s notion of gender roles. While we are still far from total gender equality, if women are able to serve in the military, they sure as heck should be able to initiate flirting. If you’re the type of gal who typically waits on a guy to make the first move, but things in your dating life have been slow, then you may want to read this introductory Guide to Wicked Flirting.

Go to a bar alone… or any place for that matter – Starbucks, the movies, or a county fair. This may seem a bit awkward at first, but putting yourself out there can get you noticed. Empowered dating is all about exposing yourself and feeling comfortable even when you’re at your most vulnerable. Leave your friends at home, let down your guard, and embrace the opportunity to be yourself.

First find a spot in the bar (or place of your choosing) that allows you to interact with people. You can try bellying up to the bar and make friends with your bartender. Walk and talk with confidence. Put down your cellphone and focus on who’s in the bar. Smile, laugh, and strike up a converstaion with the strangers sitting near you. Browse the bar for a guy you find attractive. Make eye contact, and if he is too shy to approach you, move to where he is. Be friendly and engage in conversation. Start with “hello” – people forget how effective that one word is when breaking the ice.

Ask questions because us ladies aren’t the only ones who like to talk about ourselves. Once engaged in conversation, don’t clam up. If you come across someone you’d like to know better, take it slow — but try to keep the conversation going. Ask questions, smile, and pay attention to what they’re saying, and look them in the eye! Good eye conact shows the gentleman he is the most important thing in the room to you.

Ask him about his hobbies, favorite sports teams, and movies — and share some casual, but not too personal, information about yourself in return. Remember this is supposed to be fun, so relax and enjoy yourself! Conversation is a balancing act, but if you’re both enjoying it, you won’t even notice.

Be yourself – this may seem obvious, but some of the worst crash-and-burn stories you read in magazines like Cosmopolitan occur when someone is trying to put on a mask. Challenging yourself to act in a manner outside of the box is not the same as being untrue to you. Talk about what you’re passionate about. Even if he’s not into the same things, passion is contagious.

Everyone loves a mystery. Think of flirting as a foreword to the book of you. While you want to be yourself and converse freely, you also want to save some things to talk about for the first date… or perhaps for breakfast if things go really well that night. Leave him wanting more.

Give him your number. Few things are more attractive than a flirt who is confident, playful, and clever. If you like the time you’ve spent with this new man, give him your number. Don’t be shy, what’s the worse than can happen, he doesn’t call? It’s not the end of the world, but if you don’t try, you’ll never know where it can go.

Remember, if you sit back and wait for a man to do all of these things, you may spend the best years of your life doing just that, waiting. Take control and be the sexy, witty, best version of you, you can be!

xo,
jd

‘jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size’ Projected to Be Most Successful Installment of Series to Date

Currently in Its 2nd Run, the 1st Sex Instructional
Movie for People of Size Sold Out Shortly Upon Release!   

 

CHATSWORTH, Calif. (July 31, 2014) – Wicked Pictures’ newest installment of the acclaimed sex instructional DVD series, jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size, is projected to become the series’ most successful volume to date based on the initial response. Now in its second run, Plus Size sold out shortly upon its release. It is the first ever sex instructional movie for people of size.
“We immediately sold out of our initial run of the title and are now in our second run,” said Wicked Pictures President and founder Steve Orenstein. “If the initial sales numbers are an accurate indication of the demand for this in the market, I believe  ‘GTWS: Plus Size’ is going to do very well. To become the best selling title in our educational line is especially noteworthy because this genre does exceptional.”
Orenstein added, “The title’s success is a credit to jessica, Kelly Shibari, and the entire team behind the production of this immensely popular installment of jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex.
Co-directed by sexual wellness authority and Wicked Pictures contract star jessica drake and BBW performer and size acceptance advocate Kelly Shibari, the film was released on June 25 to much acclaim. It offers sex tips and communication exercises for men, women, and couples of size, as well as bonus demonstrations and sex scenes with plus size performers.
“Creating this new edition of the series focusing on sex positive education for people of size was really a labor of love for Kelly, me, and our amazingly open cast and talented crew. I’m grateful it’s been so well received by fans and reviewers alike!” drake said.
To view and download the front and back box art for jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size, click here.
jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size is the first sex education DVD created for the plus size community. The movie’s cast includes beautiful BBW performers Devlyn Red, Angel DeLuca, and Scarlet LaVey, as well as real-life couples Scarlette Cyn and JC Lewis, and Sherri Shaulis and Michael Colbert; it showcases women of a diverse range of BBW sizes, ranging from size 14 – 24. In addition to narrating much of the project, Kelly Shibari also performs in one of the full-length sex scenes featured in the film, with award-winning actor / director and radio personality Derrick Pierce.
Already the critics have shown their support for the title such as AdultDVDTalk.com, which wrote, “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size is a nicely done instructional release. I really like that Wicked decided to expand this series with subjects like this, and they did a great job choosing Kelly Shibari to lead it.” While Mr. Will of MrWillsHouseOfThrills.com wrote: “Kelly Shibari and jessica drake teamed up to crank this one out, and quite frankly they knocked it out of the f*cking park. Bases loaded, smacked it out of the park, game over folks.”
The movie takes viewers through a variety of topics, from relationship communication, discussion of trigger words and acceptable terminology between partners, size-friendly sex positions, and body confidence exercises. Three full-length sex scenes featuring optional audio commentary are offered at the film’s conclusion. Interviews with plus-size adult performers, as well as couples, are an integral part of the project. They provide a non-xxx look into the issues confronted by plus size women, men, and couples, and offer solutions to increase confidence and combat negative stereotypes.
Media may request a review copy of the movie by emailing press@wickedpictures.com.
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About jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex:
Three-time AVN Best Actress winner and sexual wellness authority jessica drake brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today’s hottest adult stars in her “Guide to Wicked Sex” series. The stimulating sequences are sensual, provocative and enlivened by an informative optional audio commentary. In each volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” writer, producer, director, and host jessica drake addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. jessica explores each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor, which led Dee Dennis, the founder of sexuality conference CatalystCon, to praise her as “an amazing sex educator and speaker, who represents a new direction and is breaking new ground” in the sexual self-help genre. The series’ volume on Fellatio earned AVN’s 2012 Best Educational Release trophy, “Anal” was named XBIZ’s 2012 Specialty Release of the Year, “Anal Sex for Men” received AVN’s 2014 Best Educational Release award. For more information, visit www.GuideToWickedSex.com, www.Facebook.com/GuideToWickedSex, or www.Twitter.com/Guide2WickedSex.
 
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From her background in design and construction in mainstream film and television production, to performing in front of the camera as the sexually charged figurehead for chubby Asian girls everywhere, Kelly Shibari is a stereotype-breaking tour-de-force. Holding the distinct honor of being the only plus-sized performer ever molded for a Fleshlight, Kelly is also the face of harness company SpareParts Hardwear®’s plus size line, and made sexy pop culture media site Fleshbot’s Top Ten Crush Object List for 2013. Her self-produced, self-marketed DVD, Kelly Shibari is Overloaded, was nominated for both XBIZ and AVN, not just for the DVD itself but also for its marketing campaign. Kelly was named 2013 BBW Performer of the Year at EXXXOTICA’s fan-based awards, “The Fannys,” and also named Best BBW Performer at the 2013 NightMoves Awards. Most recently, Kelly made history and gained international media attention as the first-ever plus size model ever to grace the cover of Penthouse Magazine’s Penthouse Forum. For more information, visit www.KellyShibariXXX.com, www.Twitter.com/KellyShibari, and www.Facebook.com/KellyShibari.
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Let’s Make A Sex Tape – What to Remember When Creating Your Sex Tape

The movie Sex Tape, starring Cameron Diaz and Jason Segel, teaches us a valuable lesson, beware of the iCloud. In the prehistoric VHS era, creating a sex tape used to be low-risk, since the tape was physical, bury-able, and nuke-able. The innocent, and slightly naive, couple in Sex Tape reflects how tech-savvy suburbanites may neglect to consider the hands their XXX movie may fall into, like parents, bosses, or the NSA. What I’m saying is, I’m a porn star. People see me have sex– no surprises. But others, like people who are using their iPad to record themselves in the act, should remember to be responsible and fully aware of how their video may end up on the Internet. This being said, creating a sex tape can feel outrageously liberating and sexually rewarding. Knowing you’re being filmed forces you and your partner to love more consciously and up your performance… so, here are steps for to remember to ensure a smooth and delicious sex tape experience:

Read the contract and sign an anti-release form. This does not have to be written, but it is mandatory to understand the potential consequences of making a sex tape. First, if you upload it onto a computer, there’s a chance of a third party viewer. Second, anyone who acquires it may use it as blackmail. To prevent the viral spread of your home video, only share it between you and your partner and make a promise to never upload the video online. In the event of a break-up, also promise to mutually destroy the video. Alternatively, record the sex, play it back, and immediately delete it. If you have smartphone, Google Glass Sex is an app that lets you watch and record yourself having sex and automatically deletes the footage five hours later.

Be the artistic director of your scene. Consider wearing costumes for some hot role-playing, such as doctor and patient, or student and teacher.Will your character need a prop? Think about incorporating sex toys into your video, such as a vibrating dildo or a whip, for sexual fun and variance. Also think about the angle and position of your camera. Do you want to see all balls or a close-up of two steaming bodies? Having two cameras is particularly useful because one can focus on you while the other focuses on your partner. This will allow you and your partner to watch each other at the same time after recording.

Improvise your scene. I know this totally goes against my last point. However, I want to stress the importance of relaxing and having fun– this video is for you and your partner, a celebration of each other’s love or adept sexual prowess. Making a sex tape should be a zero-pressure production. After solidifying your partner’s consent, remember what happens next is only for the pleasure of you and your partner, as opposed to a worldwide porn-viewing audience. While the film is rolling, consciously kiss, lick, penetrate, and gaze at each other. Think about how much you two enjoy seeing each other’s bodies. If you’re really nervous and feel like having a drink or two to take the edge off, that’s fine, but don’t go too far…  Remembering the experience is as fun as watching your movie. Another option if you’re nervous is to turn off the camera and simply pretend it’s on.

Now it’s time to watch. Now you get to watch the growing trust and intimacy between you and your partner during and after the creation of your sex tape. Filming a normally private activity, like sex, is exhilarating to watch over and over again. In fact, maybe you two could re-watch your tape while having sex… meta-sex.

Thank you for reading!

xo,

jd