Men: 3 Tips to Increase Your Sexual Stamina

Within popular culture, when it comes to a man’s sexual performance, stamina seems to be almost as important as penis size. Let’s face it – in the movies (porn AND mainstream), on TV, and even in popular music, fully pleasing a woman isn’t just a momentary bragging moment, it’s an expected male duty. And that’s a lot of pressure.

I think there’s some confusion as to what “ED” or Erectile Dysfunction really is. ED has nothing to do with going all night long- rather, it’s actual impotence. The inability to get an erection strong enough for penetrative sex. And while we’re at it, let’s also dispel the myth that every woman wants sex that lasts for hours with a massively endowed man. Obviously everyone has different likes and dislikes, but most women are good with quality over quantity. Can you last 5, 10, 15 minutes? Congrats, you’re in the majority! But if you’d like a few simple tips to increase your stamina even further, read on!

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1) Stop Worrying About Your Performance!

Sex is mostly mental. Especially when a man’s confidence begins to waver, and he’s in that slipperly- slope headspace. Not only can this affect performance, but it can kill the entire erection! It can be a vicious cycle, but if you can catch yourself as it starts, just pause and take a deep breath. Focus on your partner, her body, not your feelings. Just go with the flow. Switch things up, go back a step. Enjoy more foreplay.

2) Make Your Partner Orgasm Ahead of You (Or Vice Versa):

If you’re worried about performance, perhaps putting a bit more effort into the “pre-penetration process” will be to your advantage. If your partner orgasms during oral sex, they’ll be more aroused, future orgasms may come easier, and it might help relieve some of the pressure you feel, giving you more opportunity to just enjoy yourself. Consequently this also works the other way around. If you orgasm during foreplay, you can take your “recovery” time to lavish even more attention on your partner. After all, you know what they say; foreplay IS usually the best way.
 
3) Incorporate the Squeeze Technique:

Try the “squeeze technique” on your off-time, during masturbation. Get yourself right to the edge of the point of no return, and then stop. Do this a few times until you’re really familiar with those few seconds right before you orgasm. Then, incorporate The Squeeze on the head of your penis until the urge subsides. Make sure to practice this a lot (research!) and then share it with your partner during sex. When things get too hot and your orgasm is imminent, pull out and squeeze. You can even have her do it with you. Some guys also like the idea of using cock rings to prolong their erections, just make sure to use one that you can easily remove, and don’t wear it to the point of being numb- you can cause lasting nerve damage by restricting the bloodflow.

The bottom line is there are many ways to improve your stamina in bed, but these are just a few at the top of my list. However,  you’re probably already doing a great job, just as you are. Talk to your partner and get her feedback on what she imagines the “right” length of time is. It might be totally different than what you’d think. Relax. Have fun. Let’s take the stress out of sex.

xo,

jd

What is delayed ejaculation? Is it a medical problem?

Originally posted on *Medical News Today

Delayed ejaculation can cause psychological distress for the man who has the problem, and create stress between sex partners. The problem – a relatively rare sexual dysfunction of both medical and psychological causes – is often misdiagnosed, and it is relatively poorly addressed by research.

Use this page to find out what constitutes a true diagnosis of delayed ejaculation. Certain criteria need to be met, and these do not include an infrequent or non-troubling case of taking longer to reach orgasm, which many men may experience at some point.

Fast facts on delayed ejaculation

Here are some key points about delayed ejaculation. More detail and supporting information is in the body of this article.

  • Delayed ejaculation is a form of sexual dysfunction affecting a man’s ability to reach an orgasm.
  • The disorder is a form of ejaculatory dysfunction (others include premature ejaculation and anejaculation).
  • Delayed ejaculation is not a diagnosis until certain factors have been met, including how persistent and troublesome the problem is.
  • There is no strict figure on the “normal” time taken for men to ejaculate after penetration, and averages vary.
  • Nor is a strict amount of time for penetrative sex diagnostic of delayed ejaculation – but researchers have identified around 20 mins after penetration to be an average length of time taken by men diagnosed with the problem.
  • Delayed ejaculation can be present from the beginning of a man’s sexual activity, or can be acquired, often in certain situations.
  • Most causes are psychological, but organic reasons are also possible and are ruled out first during diagnosis.
  • Psychological causes are often complex, but can sometimes be obvious – such as to do with a couple’s mixed desire for pregnancy.
  • Styles of masturbation can strongly influence the way a man goes on to experience sexual intercourse – certain behaviors are linked to delayed ejaculation.
  • Medical cases may be more straightforward for doctors to treat than psychological ones – by addressing the underlying condition.
  • Psychological issues are not treated in the same way for every man or couple – psychological therapists instead address individual concerns.
  • Sex therapy, which can be arranged via doctors, may include the offer of practical tips to try at home during sexual activity.
  • No pharmacological therapies are available for psychological causes of delayed ejaculation.

 

What is delayed ejaculation?

Delayed ejaculation is one of the ejaculatory dysfunctions (abbreviated to EjD in research papers) and probably the least understood.1 It is also the least common form of male sexual dysfunction, affecting an estimated 1-4% of men.

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Men with a persistent problem of delayed ejaculation are likely to be distressed by it.

Compare this with how many men get premature ejaculation: based on estimates of how many at least think they have a problem with rapid ejaculation, the range for that condition is between 15-30%.

Delayed ejaculation falls in the middle of the spectrum of ejaculatory dysfunction:

  • Premature ejaculation (ejaculation always, or nearly always happening before sexual penetration has been achieved, or within about a minute of penetration)
  • Delayed ejaculation
  • Anejaculation (inability to ejaculate, including “retrograde ejaculation” and “painful ejaculation”).

The term “delayed ejaculation” recently became the officially preferred name for what had once been labeled “male orgasmic disorder.”7 What was considered a derogatory meaning has also been conferred on the disorder: “retarded ejaculation.”1 And another term that is used for the condition is “ejaculatory insufficiency.”

In summary, delayed ejaculation is the difficulty or inability of a man to reach an orgasm and ejaculate semen.

The problem is diagnosed when a man is concerned about a problem during most sexual intercourse encounters over at least six months, with a marked delay or marked infrequency of achieving ejaculation – when other problems have been ruled out and in spite of a normal erection and sexual stimulation.

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Early Heart Disease May Lead to Impotence, Study Says

Originally published on *US News Health

By Robert Preidt, HealthDay Reporter

TUESDAY, Nov. 18, 2014 (HealthDay News) — Early stage vascular disease may lead to impotence for men later in life, a new study says.

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“Erectile function can be a window into men’s cardiovascular and overall health. Erectile dysfunction and cardiovascular disease commonly coexist,” lead author David Feldman, a research assistant at Johns Hopkins University’s Center for the Prevention of Heart Disease, said in an American Heart Association news release.

The study, to be presented Tuesday at the American Heart Association annual meeting in Chicago, included more than 1,800 men without heart disease who were tracked for more than nine years.

“We looked at which measurement of early vascular disease was the best predictor for erectile dysfunction. We also looked at whether those men with multiple abnormalities, such as increased plaque in addition to arterial stiffness and dysfunction, were more likely to also suffer from erectile dysfunction,” Feldman said.

The men who had higher amounts of calcified plaque in their heart arteries were much more likely to later develop erectile dysfunction than those with no such plaque.

A number of other measures of early vascular disease were also associated with later development of erectile dysfunction, including higher levels of plaque build-up in the neck arteries that supply blood to the head and brain.

After factoring in age, race, sex and traditional risk factors such as diabetes, smoking, high cholesterol and obesity, the researchers concluded that men with higher levels of artery plaque and stiffness were 53 percent more likely to later develop erectile dysfunction.

While researchers found a link between vascular disease and later erectile dysfunction, it did not prove cause-and-effect.

Men at risk for vascular disease and erectile dysfunction should eat a heart-healthy diet, get regular exercise and avoid smoking, Feldman said.

Findings presented at scientific meetings should be considered preliminary until they are published in a peer-reviewed journal.

Life in the Shadow of Performance Anxiety: Part II

Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction with Good Health

 

 

In Part 1 of this series, I discussed some of the physical and medical basics that contribute to erectile dysfunction (ED), a serious condition that prevents millions of Americans from achieving and maintaining the type of erection required for satisfying sex. It’s a serious issue that affects some eighteen million men in this country, yet there’s precious little discussion of it in the mainstream media.

Having explored some general options available to those contending with ED in Part 1, I thought it would be interesting to invite journalist / publicist Daniel M to write a guest column for Part 2 that focuses on popular dietary and lifestyle options that will not only help you look and feel great, but they may even lead to additional stamina and vitality in the bedroom!

XO,

jessica

 

 

Evolution of a Revolution: Go Paleo with Your Partner!

 

 

For my first article on the site, I’d like to share some lifestyle choices that couples credit with bringing new levels of healthy energy and sexy excitement to their relationships. In some cases, men are even finding this easy-to-follow regimen gives them a renewed confidence in bed, allowing them to conquer insecurities and other psychological predilections that may have affected their ability to maintain a satisfactory erection.

Let’s start with the basics. We are living in uncertain times. A “Fiscal Cliff” is looming ever nearer, unstable governments are trying to print their way out of money problems, and we’re all working more, eating more, and exercising less. Yet we’re expected to look like models and be sexually insatiable. The solution, the “way out” of this 21st Century conundrum, for some, is to adopt a “paleo” perspective.

In the most literal sense, the paleolithic lifestyle (also known as the paleo diet or paleo perspective) is a template for living as humans beings are believed to have lived during the Paleolithic era. Proponents of this revolutionary lifestyle concept assert that human physiology, and thus the body and mind as a whole, evolved over a period of millions of years.

In contrast, the sweeping changes in food preparation, livestock treatment and grain storage brought about by the Industrial Revolution began only 200 hundred years ago. Genetically modified seeds, artificial preservatives and other synthesized foodstuffs are obviously of even more recent origin. These foods have “advanced” faster than our bodies have evolved, paleo enthusiasts argue, due to the changes brought about by unregulated industrialization and rapid leaps genetic science, leading to a societal disconnect between our bodies and minds.

On a purely dietary level, the paleo template for living encourages the consumption of fish, lean meat, vegetables, and nuts. All processed foods are to be avoided, especially preservative-laden junk food, potato-based products, gluten, dairy and wheat.

While the health benefits in adopting the paleo diet are plentiful, some proponents argue that the real rewards run much deeper. It’s about equilibrium, they maintain, and outlook. And to bring this all back to the subject of this series, some even cite a qualitative or quantitative difference in their sex drive!

While some pundits have scoffed at these claims, current research suggests such assertions may be valid. Increasing numbers of forward-thinking dieticians recommend the paleo diet specifically to patients contending with ED and / or complaining of a diminished sex drive. The paleo diet, properly implemented and followed, leads to an increase in saturated fat (necessary to synthesize testosterone), better blood flow, improved circulation (from fish oil) and increased levels of zinc; all are believed to be factors in lessening impotence.

The subtle changes in body composition and testosterone yield psychological and emotional benefits as well; many credit the muscle definition they acquire through the paleo lifestyle for giving them the added stamina, confidence psychological tools and self-image needed to conquer ED.

But whether you’re contending with Erectile Dysfunction or you just want to inject raw vitality and boundless energy into your sex life, don’t be surprised if the Paleo Revolution is the right evolution for you.

 

– Daniel M.

Life in the Shadow of Performance Anxiety, Part I

Communication Is Key in Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction

Whether you choose to call it male sexual dysfunction, sporadic impotence or erectile dysfunction (ED), the inability to achieve and maintain the type of erection required for satisfying sex is a surprisingly common condition in the United States today. According to the Mayo Institute, some eighteen million Americans suffer from ED each year.

What’s most striking about this figure, and the first thing we should commend, is that these people are taking the first step toward achieving greater sexual health. Let’s face facts – it’s not always easy to talk about sexual problems with your partner, and it can be downright daunting to discuss such a stigmatizing issue.

Understandably, the choice for some is to simply avoid bringing the issue out into the open. But like any sexual challenge, avoiding the problem won’t make it go away. However, it will likely lead to performance anxiety and other relationship tension. As in all areas of life, communication is key in achieving a great sex life, and I’d like to share some knowledge to help you down the right path.

First of all – let’s address that 900 pound gorilla in the living room – While ED is most likely to affect a man over the age of forty, it does not mean he’s less virile or that he’s losing interest in his lover. In many cases, the reality is very different. Like other areas in which stamina is required, erectile dysfunction can simply be the sign of a body crying out for help. Many of the common issues that threaten the overall livelihood of middle-aged men – including heart disease, Type 2 Diabetes, and hypertension – can erode a man’s ability to perform at his sexual peak.

The solution to overcoming these issues is often just a need for greater physical fitness. To quote another Mayo Institute statistic, fully 33% of our nation’s population is obese. Not merely overweight, mind you, but clinically obese. While it’s certainly not my place to lecture anyone about their weight (and I urge everyone to feel good about who they are regardless of body type) correcting the medical issues that contribute to ED can lead men (and their lovers!) to making life changes beneficial to both the physical and mental health of their relationships. Eliminating fatty foods and working out regularly, for example, will give couples heightened stamina and endurance in all areas of life, including the bedroom!

Some prescription medications, including several major anti-depressants in the SSRI family, are known to trigger side effects that can contribute to ED. If you have any reason to believe this is happening to you, bring your concerns to your primary physician at your earliest convenience.   You should also have your doctor run tests for hormonal imbalances, as certain types, if sufficiently advanced, can affect a man’s ability to process and respond to erotic stimuli.

Whether ED is the result of physical, medical or psychological issues, there are a number of easily available prescription medications available that may help one achieve and maintain a satisfactory erection. To some, however, this is seen as “treating the symptom” and not as a true long-term cure. Now that we’ve covered the physical and medical basics, I’ll be addressing how to enlist your lover’s help in taking back control of your body in Part II!