5 Tips to Giving Great Oral Sex

*Originally appeared as a guest blog post on “Dirty And Thirty.”

If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s the majority of men love a great blowjob. Therefore, in honor of “Steak and Blowjob Day,” I have taken the liberty of sharing five of my favorite tips for giving incredible head.

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  • Start Slow and Let Him Know It’s “Blow Job Time”: When giving fellatio, always start slow and let your partner know its all for his benefit. In your own words, tell your man that it’s “blow job time” and you expect nothing in return. You can use this information to tease him with a suggestive text or phone call earlier in the day. Then when the time comes, use only your tongue. Don’t incorporate hands yet. Tease him into full arousal, and if he’s already aroused, make him want it even more.
  • Perception Is Everything: When giving a man oral sex, his point of view is very important. Keep your location in mind and always think of ways to stimulate him visually, as well as physically. For example, consider positioning yourself in front of a mirror, or somewhere with a partial view of a mirror. As noted in “Guide to Wicked Sex: Fellatio,” a popular volume in my sex instructional series, be sure to wear something that shows off your breasts and tie your hair into a ponytail to give him a clear view. This way, your man can fully appreciate his blowjob and watch it from different angles.
  • Be Enthusiastic: Men love it when you enjoy giving them pleasure. Moan and make it obvious that you like what you’re doing. When he starts to cum, be enthusiastic! Don’t stop, and if you don’t want to swallow, use your saliva and his cum to stroke him. Rub his cock with all your saliva and use both hands until he stops moving. He’ll never notice, and he’ll thank you later for not stopping!
  • Use Flavored Lubes: Flavored lubes can make giving oral sex extremely tasty. My favorite personal lubricants are from the Wicked Sensual Care collection, which contains 100 percent plant-based derivatives and glycerin – thus making them vegan and PETA-compliant. The line also includes several products with the glycerin-free advantage—hypoallergenic Sensitive, Jellé, and an entire silicone-based Ultra line. Spread a thin layer of lube on your man’s cock and then dive in. He’ll taste wonderful!
  • Eye Contact: When giving fellatio, I cannot overstress the need for eye contact. When you’re looking into his eyes and moaning, it signals that you are confidence and love what you’re doing. This will trigger an instinctive, animalistic reaction from your man, and he will feel more relaxed and more turned on– and experience an incredible orgasm!

Demonstrating you care as much about your man’s sexual satisfaction as you do your own is a great way to show your appreciation and boost his confidence. Use all of my tips, and don’t be scared to try new things. Later, when it’s your turn, I’ll bet your guy will be just as eager to return the favor!

 

xo,

jessica drake

Speaking to Prof. Constance Penley’s UCSB Students

Monday I had the honor of speaking at the University of California at Santa Barbara to a class taught by Professor of Film and Media Studies, Constance Penley. Although I’ve found myself speaking at many universities lately, each experience has been completely different, and this one was exceptionally unique.

The lecture took place in the Pollack Theater, a truly gorgeous venue, boasting the biggest screen I’ve even seen anything I’ve directed on. And speaking of the screen, before I was escorted onto the stage, the first few minutes of my latest starring role, $EX  was shown. As I took my seat onstage and began to introduce myself and talk a bit abut my background and history, I was excited to see everyone paying very close attention – some even taking notes that will come into play later during my time with them.

I did go through the usual introductory information, and after that, I focused on explaining how my series came about. I was describing my formula for writing, casting, and shooting, then we screened Guide to Wicked Sex – Anal Play for Men. As the lights dimmed, I turned sideways to be able to see the screen, but I made sure I was still able to see the student’s reactions as well. On screen they saw my narration, then the amazing interviews my performers gave me, and after that, they saw some demonstrations. Suddenly, in the near dark, on the HUGE theater screen we were treated to all kinds of male anal play – blow jobs with anal exploration, rimming, handjobs, and more. Even as a seasoned professional, I was totally enthralled. I’ve never seen anything I’ve directed on a screen that big, and I’ve never shared it with such a large live audience. Due to time constraints, we stopped short of anal play with toys and strap ons, and when the lights came on, everyone looked as captivated as I felt. Every time I’ve watched porn in a large group, my experience has varied, but I’d never found the sheer curiosity and attention level as I found in Professor Penley’s class.

We concluded our time together with one of the best Q and A sessions ever. This is where the notes they were taking earlier came into play. The questions were insightful, intuitive, and really original. After the questions, I went into the lobby of the theater for awhile to meet the students personally and gift them with copies of the series and also my newest feature movie, $EX. I also answered questions privately, on a one on one basis, and then it was time to leave.

As I drove home and replayed the afternoon in my head, I thought once again about how truly grateful I am – for opportunities like this, for people like Constance, and especially for my awesome performers and crew who work so hard for me and always give me their very best. Hopefully a few of them are reading this right now – and to them and all of you – I say thanks.

xo,

jd

10 Steps to the Perfect Blow Job

I created 10 Steps to the Perfect Blow Job as a short and concise guide for lovers all over the globe.   Most men love nothing more than no-strings-attached oral sex.    It’s a perfect gift for any occasion and I can personally guarantee it will be the one item that definitely isn’t returned for another size.  Keep your lover satisfied and surprised with this generous offering whenever the mood is right.

 

  1. Wear something that shows cleavage! You can also keep a hair tie around your wrist, if needed. A ponytail will give him an unobstructed view.
  2. What to say – in your own words, make sure your man knows this is all for him, it’s blow job time and you expect nothing in return. You can even tease him with this earlier in the day, with a suggestive text or phone call.
  3. Before you do anything, drink something that will hydrate your mouth or have a sugary treat- this usually makes lots of slippery spit!
  4. Location, location, location – while every man might have his own special place, i’ve found positioning the blow job in front of a mirror, or at least with a view of a mirror, will give your man a whole new dimension.  He has all the excitement of getting a blow job plus he can watch it from different angles.
  5. Start slow. Tongue only.  No hands.  Tease him into full arousal.  If he’s already aroused, make him want it even more.
  6. Lick, then swirl your tongue around the head of his cock. Experiment with different tongue techniques. Don’t forget the balls.  Then slowly, slowly, slowly slide your mouth down his shaft.
  7. Deep throat.  (Do not do this on a full stomach.)  Deep throat until you conjure up that wet, gooey saliva.  Stop and look at up and tell him how much you love his cock.
  8. Once his cock is soaked with your saliva, use your hands.  Both of them.  Everywhere.  Let your hands be an extension of your mouth.  Cork screw.  Hold the base of his penis with one hand, while masturbating him with the other.  Don’t stop sucking.  Massage his balls.  Lightly push on his perineum.  If he likes ass play, play with his ass. Read his body language, and respond accordingly.
  9. Slow down.  It will drive him crazy.  Let him guide your mouth and your head.  Relax and let your man fuck your mouth and hands at his own rhythm.
  10. When he starts to cum, don’t stop.  If you don’t want to swallow, he will never know.  Use his cum with your saliva to stroke him. Suck and rub his cock with both hands and all your saliva until he stops moving.