Ask jessica: Exploring the Idea of Pursuing a Woman Sexually

Hi jessica,

Lately I have found myself attracted to other women and thinking about the possibility of exploring. Is this normal?

-Adrianne, Miami, FL


Hi Adrianne,

What you are feeling is perfectly natural. Many women are attracted to other women at one time or another, whether it’s casually in passing, actively fantasizing about the same sex, or acting on it. Our sexuality is constantly changing over time with personal growth and new experiences. If you are curious about having sex with a woman, you can use “Guide to Wicked Sex: Woman to Woman” as a way to explore that. Straight, bi, lesbian – we’re not trying to classify here, but simply guide you on your way to an amazing, sensual experience with another woman.

Often, your first sexual encounter isn’t even comprised of what we would call “sex”, but more of an exploration of bodies. The sensation of being completely caught up in the moment – suspended in time – is what many of us spend our adult lives trying to replicate. It’s true; you never forget your first.

You want to be with a woman. You’re ready, but you don’t know where to begin. This could seem like your biggest challenge. Personally, I prefer the more direct approach, but you ultimately need to decide what works best for you and makes you feel most comfortable.

Though in “Guide to Wicked Sex,” I start with foreplay, warm up, and go further, this is by no means linear. You don’t have to do things in order or encompass everything you learn here into your first encounter… or any one after that. You will find what you love, and depending on your partner, you will discover her turn-ons as well. Communication really comes into play here; if you love something, be appreciative and lavish praise. And if you’re not into something, it’s up to you to get that message across as well, but do it in a way that isn’t hurtful – encourage a different activity in it’s place instead.

For more information and a guide to your first sexual experience with another female, check out jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Woman to Woman.



Woman to Woman

The end of 2012 is quickly approaching and in the midst of the holidays, I’m planning the next two editions of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” – two topics that are completely different from each other. When I originally started to brainstorm the series, I mapped out the first two years’ worth of subject matter, but in time, I found my attention shifting instead to the feedback I was getting from the people who attended my seminars, called into my radio show, and tweeted me looking for advice or ideas. “Anal Play for Men,” the most recent release in the line, was in direct response to many requests. My viewers inspire me and guide me much in the same way I hope I’m doing for them.

It seems now there are more bi-curious women seeking out information than ever before on how to take the plunge and explore a same sex adventure, whether it’s a one time thing or the start of something more. “Woman to Woman” will be the next installation in the series, and I am in the process of casting some of the most sensual women who have an insatiable appetite for female flesh.

From the standpoint of a woman who has been in relationships with women, it’s important to me to capture the true dynamic of girl/girl sex. The chemistry. The passion. The little things women do to each other so well. From the standpoint of a performer who has done scenes with both types of women – the type who are into girls and the type who are strictly acting – it’s important to me to portray only the most genuine exchange between partners. Realism is my priority.

My cast list is open on my desktop right now, and as my wish list grows, so does my excitement to bring you a truly beautiful, candid guide to loving women… for a woman.

Coming soon- Another GTWS topic. Just as soon as I get through the holidays!

Happy Holidays,