FROM JESSICA’S MAIL BAG:
Hi, jessica! I’m not in love with my body right now and only want to have sex in the dark. Can you recommend any positions that will hide my extra weight, so I can turn on the lights for my man?
–Trish; Boston, MA
The most important thing to note is physical appearance isn’t everything, and if any part of you feels like your partner puts pressure on your regarding your appearance, then it may be time to reevaluate your relationship.
That being said, sex is such a wonderful part of life! Unfortunately, many women stress out so much about areas they believe to be imperfect that it affects their ability to orgasm – the mind kicks into overdrive trying to hide things, instead of simply being comfortable and letting go. If you’re too concerned about having a little extra jiggle, then it’s hard to enjoy the act. Luckily, there are some simple positions to help conceal body areas you may be self conscious about.
If you’re worried about your stomach, then having sex in doggy position will cause the guy’s focus to be entirely on your luscious booty. The cowgirl position is also good to conceal tummy fat. You’re upright in the position, which helps, plus your breasts will be bouncing around to draw his attention. In the reverse cowgirl position, your back is to him, so once again your butt will draw his attention.
If it’s your backside and thighs you want to hide, then consider variations on the missionary position. Besides covering your back, the missionary position also causes the focal point to be your eyes and face.
Of course, standing up while having sex is a great way to conceal any trouble spots. Standing stretches out all your areas.
You can also try a new wardrobe in the bedroom. There are plenty of sexy lingerie options available to cover areas you dislike and enhance those you do.
In the end, the most important thing to remember is everyone has insecurities, but if you’re with a partner who cares about you and has earned your trust, then he probably thinks of you as the most beautiful in the world regardless of any weight you may have put on. So flip on the lights and enjoy yourself!