What Porn Doesn’t Teach You About Anal Sex

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The following is an article I wrote for StyleCaster.com on “What Porn Doesn’t Teach You About Anal Sex”:

“Lately, during the Q&A portion of my “Guide to Wicked Sex” workshops, many of the questions I’ve been getting are about anal. And it’s no wonder, when you consider the amount of couples I speak to who are worried there’s something wrong with them (their words!) because they couldn’t figure out how to have anal sex the way they saw me having it in movies. That was a big “a ha” moment, as it dawned on me that some people just aren’t able to differentiate porn for fantasy versus how it might translate in their own bedroom.

In porn, anal sex looks easy. With hardly any foreplay, the pool boy is suddenly pounding away at the back door, and everyone’s having orgasms everywhere. Ah, the joys of editing! Understand this: We’re trained professionals. You can still try this at home, but there are some things you should know beforehand.”

Read my full article to find out tips on how to prepare properly in order to have great anal sex. To read it on StyleCaster, click here.

Join jessica drake for Sex Education & Sex Positivity on #SexTalkTuesday

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As many of you are aware, May is Masturbation Month, as in yes you May, whenever you want! Thankfully the fine folks of the live Twitter chat community #SexTalkTuesday are ready to celebrate solo, or as a group, and they have extended an invite for me to come and host the May 24th 1016 edition of the chat as an educator and sex positivity practitioner.

“As the star of so many memorable adult films, and a sex positive role model to women who span multiple generations, we knew that Mrs. drake would be the perfect host for what promises to be one of our most popular live chats to date” said Angie Rowntree of Sssh.com‘s #SexTalkTuesday. “When it comes to masturbation, everyone may have their style and approach, but we believe there is near unanimous agreement that jessica drake is a world renowned expert on the topic and we look forward to see what comes of the interaction among our growing audience and one of today’s most approachable sex educators.” 

Sex Talk Tuesday hosts live interactive Twitter chats each week on a variety of topics and features many top names as expert contributors and guests during lively discussions, heated debates and warm exchanges of ideas that are all aimed at improving the sex lives of millions of people from all over the globe.

Just log into your Twitter account and join the excitement as part of the #sexTalkTuesday chat, live from 3 :00- 4:00 Eastern on the 24th of May 2016. I look forward to answering your questions, listening to your input, and learning from your experiences as well, during what I hope will become a recurring event on my schedule, because frankly… if you can’t love yourself properly, well who can?!

People Are Finally Talking About Consent in an Open, Sexy Way and That’s A Win for Everyone

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The following article by Mark Shrayber was published yesterday on Uproxx.com and contains an interview with me. It’s titled “People Are Finally Talking About Consent in an Open, Sexy Way and That’s A Win for Everyone”:

“Consent is critical to any sexual relationship, whether it be a long-term marriage or a Thursday night session of ‘Netflix & Chill.’ The problem, however, is that until now, consent has been made to seem like a dry and boring topic — something necessary, but also a possible mood killer. How sexy is it really to stop in the middle of sexual congress to say “are you willingly engaging in the act of coitus with me?’

But f*ck that noise because here’s what’s up: Consent. Is. Important.

First things first, though: Considering that consent has always been important, why are we talking about it so much and so openly now?”

To read the rest of Mark’s article on Uproxx.com and his interview with me, click here.

Sex in the News Recap, Week of April 22nd, 2016

Oddo Hopes to Provide Cotton Underwear And Sex Ed to Its Customers by Teen
Vogue:
It’s awesome to hear that someone – especially a new company – is taking strides to encourage sexual health and wellness! Read more about Oddo here: http://www.teenvogue.com/story/oddo-underwear-sex-ed-manual-self-care

Balancing Act: Juicebox app picks up where sex ed classes leave off by Chicago Tribune:
I love this! So many people, old and young alike learn about sex through avenues other than sex ed, including porn. This app gives great info, along with shared experiences from its users. Read more at: http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/stevens/ct-sex-ed-app-teens-juicebox-balancing-0411-20160411-column.html

Let’s Talk: What women really want — female sex myths busted by Indian Express:
Here’s an interesting article featuring scientific research suggesting that some commonly held beliefs may not be as true as you think. Hint: it’s NEVER a good idea to assume someone is one way just because of their gender. Read more at: http://indianexpress.com/article/lifestyle/feelings/lets-talk-what-women-really-want-female-sex-myths-busted/

James Franco Opens Up About His Sexuality: ‘I’m a Little Gay’ By ETOnline:
So is he or isn’t he? Perhaps we shouldn’t be overthinking it. Read what James said here: http://www.etonline.com/news/186937_james_franco_opens_up

Embracing Fetish In Bed

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The following is an article I wrote for StyleCaster two weeks ago on “Embracing Fetish in Bed”:

Even though we’re living in a time where sex is so openly portrayed in mainstream media (thanks, EL James!), we’re still missing out on something that could quite literally be at our fingertips… Time and time again, I get asked about fetishes.  

           “I love the arch of women’s feet!”

           “I have dreams about taking two guys at once.”

           “I can only orgasm with a partner if they spank me and call me dirty words.”

           “I wear my wife’s thong when I masturbate.”

           “I get hard when women call me Daddy.”

These are all statements I’ve heard, and the question that inevitably follows them is always the same: “Am I WEIRD?!?”

Read my article to find out why you are actually fantastic.  To read it on StyleCaster, click here.

The Origins of Orgasmic Moaning

The following is an excerpt from an article on “The Origins of Orgasmic Moaning,” which I was interviewed for. It published April 4, 2016 on PrimeMind.Com:

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Adult performer and director Jessica Drake told me that before she made a career out of having orgasms on camera, pleasure was a muted affair for her. “In the beginning of having adult relationships, masturbation was always something I hid from my partner,” she said. “So it was a very quiet thing for me.” 

Drake explained that porn—which, according to Kerner, is a major influence on the unrealistic sexual expectations placed on women—was, at its onset, “strictly done for male enjoyment.” She believes that prototypical mainstream porn, which harks back to the early 70s, features nonrepresentative behavior such as “to-the-rafters” moaning and “women squirting like geysers and having really easy sex” because these theatrical markers incite confidence and pleasure in straight men. 

You can enjoy the rest of the article here: http://www.primemind.com/articles/the-science-behind-some-women-s-loud-noises-in-bed.

Sex in the News Recap, Week of March 11th, 2016

New Research Reveals European Women’s Attitudes Towards Sexual Behaviors by News-Medical.net:
An interesting look at European sexual behavior. The article highlights women’s ability to make choices when it comes to reproductive health. Just remember, whatever your “normal” happens to be is okay. Everyone is different! Read more here:
http://www.news-medical.net/news/20160308/New-research-reveals-European-womens-attitudes-towards-sexual-behaviours-emergency-contraceptive-pill.aspx

How to Have Casual Sex with Friends and Not Regret It:
This article highlights how communication and honesty are important in a friends with benefits type of relationship, at all phases. Read more at:
http://www.mensjournal.com/health-fitness/health/how-to-have-casual-sex-with-friends-and-not-regret-it-20160308

Federal Court Rules You Have No Constitutional Right to Engage in 100% Consensual Rough Sex By The Free Thought Project:
While consent is very important, and you should stop right away if your partner uses their “safe word,” the federal court went too far in saying BDSM isn’t consensual. It absolutely can be, if you communicate the rules and boundaries beforehand. Read more here:
http://thefreethoughtproject.com/federal-court-rules-constitutional-engage-100-consensual-rough-sex/

Positions For Anal Sex

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I was interviewed for the following article for AskMen.com. It originally posted on Friday, March 5th:

“I recommend side spoon, as it takes the pressure off of both bodies, and also allows for both people to move. This is also a great position for clitoral stimulation as well, which I always suggest for anal play,” says jessica drake, a sex educator and a Wicked Pictures contract star.”

“Another great position can be cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, placing the person on top in charge of the depth and speed of thrusting. It also makes for a great visual, and again, can provide for possible clitoral stimulation,” says Drake.”

Sex in the News Recap, Week of March 3rd, 2016

Public Schools Will See New Sex Education Courses from Rocky Mountain Telegram:
I  love how macomb county is using sex education courses to combat high rates of STDs and Teen Pregnancy: http://www.rockymounttelegram.com/News/2016/03/03/Public-Schools-will-see-new-sex-education-courses.html

The Best Time of Day to Have Sex from Salon:
As the article points out, when isn’t a good time to have sex? All kidding aside, hormones fluctuate throughout the day, so check out this article for more information:
http://www.salon.com/2016/03/02/whats_the_best_time_of_day_to_have_sex_partner/

China Bans Sex, Drugs, Witchcraft by The Mirror:
It’s unfortunate to see the Chinese government banning content which could give people pleasure, but it makes me feel fortunate to live in America. Read more at:
http://www.mirror.co.uk/tv/tv-news/china-bans-sex-drugs-witchcraft-7493007

Jessica Drake Wants Us All To Have Happier, Healthier Sex Lives

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Hi everyone,

Happy leap day! I was featured in an article on Uproxx about helping people have a happier, healthier sex life. It originally posted on February 27th, 2016:

At her sex ed workshops, Jessica Drake passes around a box with the words “live,
laugh, love” printed on it. Inside are index cards of sex questions that people
have written to Jessica under the cover of anonymity. During the workshop, she reads
them out loud, and then answers them with compassion and useful tips from her
experience directing and starring in adult films.

Drake’s workshops are mainly geared towards heterosexual couples, and touch on similar
topics as Jessica Drake’s Guide To Wicked Sex, her line of instructional
DVDs. So the questions tended to reflect the sorts of things that that straight
couples might be interested in, but have no idea how to approach. Case in point: the
majority of the questions when I attended were about how to have anal sex.
Drake addressed the discomfort that men and women might have about the topic with
compassion.

To read the rest of the article, go to: http://uproxx.com/life/jessica-drake-sex-ed-healthy-relationships/.