A Recap of My Appearance at Chapman University

Earlier this week, I had the honor of speaking to a Human Sexuality class at Chapman University with Nina Hartley. The students had already done extensive research on both sides of the porn debate, and they had written papers on whether porn has positive, negative, or neutral effects on men, women, and relationships.

Prior to speaking, Nina and I had no idea who was “pro porn” and who wasn’t, but now in retrospect, I’d love to know if and how their thoughts changed after listening to us and asking us questions. They were a really attentive group, primarily young women, and after Nina and I introduced ourselves, we talked about all kinds of things: consent and boundaries, feminist views on porn, owning our sexuality, orgasms, and much, much more. After we spoke, we took questions from the students and could have easily gone on another hour.

The more questions I hear, the more I realize the public needs more information from reliable sources who can represent the adult business authentically. I love meeting people who are intelligent and willing to listen with open minds, and that’s exactly how Nina and I spent our evening in the company of the students at Chapman.

xo,
jd

Slut Shaming Discussion at CatalystCon East

As I previously mentioned, I will be participating in the inaugural CatalystCon East sexuality conference in Washington D.C., March 15-17.

One of the sessions I will be presenting is titled, Slut Shaming in Sex Positive Communities.  I’ll be speaking alongside 4 amazing women: Carol Queen, Femcar, Serpent Libertine, and Crysta Heart.

Here’s a description of the session from CatalystCon’s website (www.CatalystCon.com):

Does “sex positive” always mean acceptance of the sexual appetites of others or other communities we’re not involved in? Why is it acceptable for sex-positive individuals to bash or criticize the sexual proclivities of others while claiming to be supportive allies? Based on our collective experiences within the sex worker, BDSM, swinger, poly, and queer communities, our panel will lead a discussion that examines some of the ways we’ve witnessed slut-shaming from those we’ve expected it least. Additionally, we’ll discuss why initiating conversations about these incidents can be even more challenging than speaking with folks in the vanilla world. By confronting this issue, we hope to find better ways to stimulate conversations among sex-positive individuals and learn how our words and actions can have an impact on others who lack understanding of our communities.

I believe this is an extremely important issue to discuss, and I am looking forward to the conversations it helps inspire.

xo,
jd

Speaking at CatalystCon East in Washington D.C.

I’m excited to say CatalystCon East is only 5 weeks away!

Back in September 2012, I was on a panel for Catalyst Con West (www.CatalystCon.com), a conference devoted to “inspiring exceptional conversations about sexuality.”  As I wrote about here, I had an amazing time meeting and speaking with many of my idols in the field of sexuality.  The conference helped me grow as an educator and a woman.

I’m pleased to announce I will be participating in the inaugural CatalystCon East in the Washington D.C. area, March 15-17.  I am extremely honored to participate as a panel member for the Opening Keynote Plenary Address: Sparking Communication in Sexuality, Activism, and Acceptance.  I will also present at sessions titled The Facts About Measure B, and How It Impacts Us All and Slut Shaming in Sex Positive Communities.

As we get closer to the conference, I’ll write posts about the various sessions I’m speaking at and let you know what sessions I’m most eager to attend.  If you live anywhere near Washington D.C. or are able to travel, I urge you to look into attending CatalystCon East.

xo,

jd

Woman to Woman

The end of 2012 is quickly approaching and in the midst of the holidays, I’m planning the next two editions of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” – two topics that are completely different from each other. When I originally started to brainstorm the series, I mapped out the first two years’ worth of subject matter, but in time, I found my attention shifting instead to the feedback I was getting from the people who attended my seminars, called into my radio show, and tweeted me looking for advice or ideas. “Anal Play for Men,” the most recent release in the line, was in direct response to many requests. My viewers inspire me and guide me much in the same way I hope I’m doing for them.

It seems now there are more bi-curious women seeking out information than ever before on how to take the plunge and explore a same sex adventure, whether it’s a one time thing or the start of something more. “Woman to Woman” will be the next installation in the series, and I am in the process of casting some of the most sensual women who have an insatiable appetite for female flesh.

From the standpoint of a woman who has been in relationships with women, it’s important to me to capture the true dynamic of girl/girl sex. The chemistry. The passion. The little things women do to each other so well. From the standpoint of a performer who has done scenes with both types of women – the type who are into girls and the type who are strictly acting – it’s important to me to portray only the most genuine exchange between partners. Realism is my priority.

My cast list is open on my desktop right now, and as my wish list grows, so does my excitement to bring you a truly beautiful, candid guide to loving women… for a woman.

Coming soon- Another GTWS topic. Just as soon as I get through the holidays!

Happy Holidays,
xo,
j.

 

A Seminar on Threesomes in Toronto

Just last week I was in Toronto launching the premiere of my line of instructional movies on Adult 4U Channel 100. I had a series of meetings and lunches, did some radio (thanks, Dean & Todd!), and also gave a seminar on threesomes. I’ve done my seminars and workshops all over the world, and I always make sure people know even if it covers the same topic, each ends up completely different, depending on the part of the world, comfortability of the audience, the time of day, ratio of women to men, and even whether or not alcohol was being served. (Side note – I gave one hell of a fellatio workshop at a ladies night after the wine and cheese was served. I’ve never seen so many women replicating tongue and hand techniques with no hesitation!)

As it turned out, the venue was a local swingers club I may or may not have visited a few times prior. Certainly this group did not particularly need my advice on pulling off a threesome, especially considering the fact the club actually had a regular “Threesomes Friday” night every week. But once again, I was reminded I am not only teaching at these workshops, I’m learning as well.

I breezed through my intro and was well into discussing rules and boundaries, when I noticed some ears perking up. There were a few questions from the audience about how to go about choosing a person and setting rules, as well as some talk about positions and double penetration. Then I closed it out with a short Q & A session. Due to time constraints at the venue, I did my meet and greet upstairs, where I went to sign autographs and pose for pictures. As soon as I started it, I quickly realized my meet and greet would be an extended Q & A, and given some additional privacy, the majority of the questions from men AND women had to do with jealousy. I was really surprised, but once again, jealousy is a very normal emotion… I just didn’t think there, of all places, people would be prone to any type of insecurity. I was wrong.

Ego aside, I like being wrong. I usually learn a lot from it. Moving forward, no matter what the venue, I’ll spend more time discussing jealousy, and ask my audience more questions as well. It’s the feedback that helps me strive to make my line of instructionals even better for you.

xo,
j

Speaking at CatalystCon

I sat in my chair listening to the introductions, one by one: Carol Queen. Dr. Robert Lawrence. Ava Mir-Ausziehen, Sex Nerd Sandra Daugherty. They are some very prolific names in the field of Sex Education – authors, doctors, pioneers…and me.

 

I was introduced by Carol Queen, no less, as a Sex Educator on a panel entitled “Sex Education: Out of the Classroom, Into the Streets.”

 

This weekend I had the privilege of attending CatalystCon (www.CatalystCon.com), a sex-positive conference in Long Beach. An event created and organized by Dee Dennis, of deedennis.com, it is described as a “safe, non-judgmental space where we can all come together and expand both our knowledge and understanding of the issues that influence sexuality today,” but for me, it was so much more.

 

The first night of the conference opened with a very unique “Social Lubrication” hosted by Reid Mihalko that had everyone up out of their seats, running around the room spouting random sex facts to total strangers. That gave way to “Sex Rules” with Maria Falzone, who warmed us up with her hysterical humor, only to leave us deep in thought with a very powerful message. The evening culminated with the Opening Keynote Plenary featuring Dr. Marty Klein (who was kind enough not to notice me trembling as I shook his hand), Megan Andelloux, Maggie Mayhem, and Francisco Ramirez. They spoke on Sparking Communication in Sexuality, Activism, and Acceptance, and by the time they were done, everyone in the room was radiating their excitement.

 

In just three short days, I met some amazing people from many different walks of Sex Ed. People whose books I have read, names I have heard, and classes I have attended. People I had only dreamed of meeting were all under one roof! Not only did I get to speak on a panel, I also got to sit in on as many as I could, and I really wish I could have cloned myself to attend a few more.

 

I attended “Media Risks: Who Wins?”, Feminist Perspectives on “50 Shades of Grey,” “Teaching Porn, How to be an Ally to Sex Workers,” “A New Monogamy,” “Fat Sex Works,” “Women in the Industry,” and “A Conversation with Anti-Establishment Sex Workers.” My brain was tingling with all of this stimulation. It was three straight days of BRAIN SEX.

 

On Saturday night, we were also treated to the premiere of a documentary called “How to Lose Your Virginity” by Therese Shechter followed by either Dirty Bingo or Bawdy Storytelling. I chose the latter, and was treated to a host of ridiculously entertaining stories by some of the speakers, and though it was very close, I dare say that Megan Andelloux took the cake with her “Pennies” story. I would give you the juicy details, but my words would never suffice. Couple that with the fact I laughed so hard I almost fell out of my chair, and it would be tough for you to get the full effect. Trust me, it was brilliant.

 

Speaking on my panel was amazing. To have people listening to me, valuing what i had to say – both because AND despite who I am, was a great experience for me as a Sex Educator. Perhaps I’ll expand on that in another blog, but for now I am simply grateful to have had the experience of CatalystCon, and would love to thank all of the attendees, Wicked Pictures, Wicked Sensual, Adella from Fine Ass Marketing, and most of all, Dee Dennis. I can’t wait for CatalystCon East.

 

jd

jessica drake on “Real Sex with the Morning X” – 97X, Tampa Bay’s New Rock Alternative

Drew, Seth and Danielle from the Morning X Show in Tampa talk with sex expert and adult star jessica drake about her line of instructional DVDs, “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex.”  jessica offers the hosts fun and accessible advice on how to improve their sex lives… or in Drew’s case, the key to better self pleasuring.

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Seduction

“Pursuit and seduction are the essence of sexuality.  It’s part of the sizzle.”  -Camille Paglia

One of the greatest feelings in the world is that of being seduced. from the very first time you feel the pull of desire toward a new lover to the feeling that you get farther into a relationship when your partner is still taking the time to make you feel desired, seduction is key. it is the foreplay to foreplay, if you will…and like foreplay, the more effort that you invest here, the greater the reward.

Every week this month, there will be a different article on Seduction, and we’ll cover what i consider to be some very important components. please feel free to leave your comments and share your own experiences, or even ask questions.

enjoy,

j

New Feature

Beginning next week, I’ll be doing a continuing weekly series. Every month we’ll have a different topic, and throughout the month on Mondays, there will be different articles on the subject. Since September is synonymous with going back to school, let this be a new chance for you to enroll in Seduction 101!

Read the first in the SEDUCTION series here.