“It’s the age-old question… How long do I wait before I have sex with a new guy I’m dating? Do guys really think less of girls that have sex on the first date?”   -Ellie, 22

Real Guy says:

The length of time should depend on your view of sex. If you look at sex as a purely physical act, which gets better as emotion becomes attached, then I say, “go for it”. If sex is more meaningful, then it’s best to wait until you’re ready, regardless of what his little head makes his big head say in the heat of passion. However, there are guys who will wait no longer than x number of dates, and if the sex hasn’t happened, they move on. Guys will wonder if you don’t like sex, and this is a sign of what’s to come. Even worse, they may think you’re holding out just so they’ll spend huge amounts of money first. As to your last question, guys call girls back because they like them personally. If you’ve had sex and the phone doesn’t ring, he wasn’t all that into you, or wasn’t interested in a relationship. You’ve probably heard this before, but at 22, a serious relationship isn’t something you should be interested in. You have many things to get out of your system (school, career, travel, friends, etc.), and statistically speaking, the odds that the next guy you have sex with will be your true “forever guy”, are astronomically against you. Best to play the odds.