Once a cheater, always a cheater?

“I met my wife when she was dating someone else. She cheated on him with me. We’ve been married for 3 years, and now I think she’s seeing someone on the side. Do you believe in the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater”? How can I tell for sure?”  -Marcos, 33

Real Guy says:

Personally Marcos, I think you’re asking this question three years too late. But since we can’t jump into a time machine, let’s address your concerns. What’s making you think she’s cheating? Has she changed her routine, lost weight, or bought clothes when she normally doesn’t? Has her sex drive cooled drastically? Does she stay up late on the computer or texting on her phone? If you just have a “feeling”, I wouldn’t call the divorce lawyer just yet. If you’re trying to catch her cheating, or gather evidence, there are many things you can do. You can put a GPS tracker on her car, a keystroke recording program on her computer, or (if you have a lot of money) hire a detective. If you insist on catching her, a visit to your local spy store, or one online, will give you more ideas. I’ve always looked at it much simpler; If I thought someone was cheating, I didn’t need to prove it. To me, the relationship was broken and it was time to move on. Once I no longer trust a woman, I don’t need to spend my hard-earned money to justify leaving.